How can we make sex more fun? Okay, so nobody really asks that because sex is just about the most fun thing you can do in this lifetime. Seriously, how can we take the most fun thing we can do and make it better? Make it so that she gets off every time? Most woman need a little help, some don’t need any. I actually do need help during sex to get off. I have a few go-to toys that work consistently and are easy to use.
First, and my favorite, is the small powerful clitoral vibe. There are plenty to choose from. Like power? Try a RO-88mm Bullet. For less than $30, this vibe has tons of power and it is small enough to fit between two bodies. There are loads of other small clitoral vibrators that can be used at the right moment to enhance an orgasm for her and make it extra fun for him as well. I actually keep a few clitoral toys on hand next to the bed. They are always ready to go and there are a few of them just in case one loses power before I get off. These toys are small and can easily be hidden. Most of them are waterproof and easy to clean.
Cock rings are another option and they can be fun for both partners. If you have the right ring at the right angle. I really like the LELO Tor II but honestly it can be too tight on some men. Also, it has a big price tag. Fit is really important. The guy would have to enjoy a cock ring, some men don’t. The Sonic Ring Kit would be a good one to start out with. It is inexpensive and has a removable vibrator if all else fails. If you have never tried a ring, give it a go. You never know how much it can add to the experience.
There are some vibrators that work during sex without having to be worn by the male. The We-Vibe is an example of those types of vibes. The woman wears them and it vibrates the clitoris and the g-spot. Hands free stimulation so he (or she) can still penetrate. Positioning is really important and not all women will be able to enjoy this much if the fit isn’t right. The vibrations might not be powerful enough for some women. When this vibe works it is magical, but when it doesn’t it is a big ole waste of money.
I did not mention any g-spot toys in this because I only want to highlight toys that (hetero) couples can use during intercourse. If a couple is into anal play there are also loads of those type toys on the market. Most can be worn during sex (in either partner) to help make the most fun thing we do, even better. For anal toys I caution people to be real careful with materials. You really don’t want to play with something in that orifice that can’t be sterilized. Silicone and glass are at the top of my list of safe materials. Silicone is somewhat better for first times since it usually has some kind of give. Silicone is easy to clean with a 10% bleach solution and can even be boiled for 3 minutes to sterilize. For anal play something like the Silk is a good first time toy. The nice thing about this toy is the flared base making it less likely get lost. Once you get more experience a butt plug is great during sex. Most plugs are designed to stay in as long as care to wear it. Also, most toys can be felt by the man through the vaginal wall.
I hope this helps you figure out where to start. There are a lot of options. Babeland has a number of guides that will show you where to start if you still have questions.
This post was sponsored by Babeland.
My work schedule has kept me from writing anything useful this week. I used to be less understanding when people told me they had “no time” to blog. The past four days I have enjoyed less than 3 wakeful hours at home. Just to make things worse, one of those precious hours was wasted in “car circles” waiting for little people. I love my little people, but I hate car circles.) So now I get it when people say they have “no time”. I am enjoying a day off right now. I was a bit shocked by the amount of things I found in my e-mail related to my site.
While checking those e-mails on Tuesday, my computer went black. It shut off and decided not to come back on. My Asus died on a Tuesday and there was nothing I could do about it. I am in a serious sweat to try to extract my content from my old hard drive. The fact that I could pull the hard drive out shows me how much I have evolved since I started this blog.
Okay, so Asus has recovered from a virus and held thousands of images and dozens of videos for me. It was witness to various encounters and my place to vent about crazy folks. It was a place I found my socially awkward self a place to be cool in the online world. I was recently diagnosed with a panic disorder. I have to confess that I am actually a socially awkward shy person. People who have met me would probably not believe it. I mask this unflattering world view with alcohol and feigned confidence. I worry about what people actually think of me, although their opinion is really none of my business. I fret over getting all the details of my appearance just right, and I am seldom happy with the outcome. I want to be honest with you, so you know who you are dealing with.
I bought a new laptop, a Sony Vaio. It is a bit of an upgrade since it features Windows 8 and a touchscreen. Windows 8 is totally different. I have been using Windows 7 for a long time. (Please don’t try to talk my into a Mac, I will never go there) I am in the process of recovering pictures and music. I will let you know how it goes.
I got a lot of reviews to do. Loads of contests just ended. I got more giveaways coming up as well… Oh and another website asked me to do a “class” with them next week. It is a Swinger intro class, so I will be answering questions and talking about my experience. I am a bit nervous. I promise to share all my awkwardness here for you to enjoy/laugh at.
I found myself on twitter this week. Trying to get some inspiration and maybe see if anyone else has suffered computer death and lived to tell the tale. I found some nice people who are trying to help me. @DomSigns from Molly’s Daily Kiss. (Yes folks, the #1 blogger from the top 100 sexy blogs 2012) I am so grateful for the time they have taken to try to help me. I am hopeful that I can get some content recovered. If not I guess that is all the more reason to the camera out…
- A- Ass
- B- Bondage
- C- Cock
- D- Doggie-Style
- E- Earlobes
- F- Fornication
- G- Gagging
- H- Hair pulling
- I- Inner thigh
- J- Jacking off
- K- Kinky
- L- Leather
- M- Masturbation
- N- Nipples
- O- Orgasm
- P- Positioning
- Q- Quench
- R- Rope play
- S- Swinger
- T- Tease
- U- Under me
- V- Vagina
- W- Wet
- X- XXX
- Y- Yes!
- Z- Zipper
This is an entry for a chnace to win an Aslan Leather Ball-Gag over on BeckandHerKinks Go check it out and enter for your chance to win!
Photo courtesy of Beck and Her Kinks
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I found a winner for the Madame Liberty Lingerie giveaway.
ஐ Michelle E ஐ
I am excited for her to get her new sexy lingerie. Thanks to everyone who helped to spread the word about the giveaway and everyone who left thoughtful comments on my site.
Michelle was actually the first one to leave a comment on this giveaway, (the winning entry was a tweet). I think this is the second time she has won one of my contests. Most of my contests have what may seem like a lot of entrants, but actually being that each person can earn so many entries, the odds of winning are pretty good. This contest only had 31 people in the running after I removed 2 entrants for failure to follow instructions. (This contest might have had a smaller pool due to sizing restrictions.) I check all the entrants before I choose a winner, I hate cheaters. As far as the number who entered, I think that is about average. The odds of winning are even better if it is a short contest. The odds are even better for you if you come back and do the daily entries. I scoured the net for an odds app to show you how easy it is to win if you enter, but I had no luck finding anything but Lottery odds. (yeah, right, like I might want to share that mathematical impossibility with you!)
I was so inspired by all the contests going on for Valentine”s Day that I started entering every contest I could find. I had over 12 contests listed on my contests and giveaways page and you know what!? I actually won something from Jen over at GeekinmeReviews. Her contest had over 1300 entrants. Am I that lucky? No not really. Like me she had a few different ways to enter and I took advantage and entered almost daily (I really wanted that Lollipop!).
I have another giveaway coming up. I hope you take the time to enter and don’t get intimidated by the number of entrants. The odds of winning are probably better than you think!
I had a really great time last night out at the club. I was delighted to spend the first few minutes of 2013 kissing the love and my life in a room full of sexy people. We almost stayed in this year for new years eve, I am glad we decided to go out. This past year has been full of changes for us. It was great to get out and celebrate that 2012 is finally over. I am excited about the changes to come.
Something great already happened this year. I woke up today to discover that Red Region had named my site as one of the sexiest of 2012! There are 40 blogs on this list, and all of them are worth a read. Check them out and discover some new sexy sites this year. Thank you Red Region! This list rocks and I feel very privileged to be part of it.
I really, really appreciate it when people say they read my blog. It means my voice has an audience. I know the internet is full of people saying things, especially things about sex. I was thinking about what being sex blogger means. I think being a sex blogger has made me acutely more aware of my sexuality and for that I am so grateful. I am also really grateful to live in world with so many sexy bloggers.
I am starting my full time nights schedule this week at my new job. It has been years since I worked nights. My main concern is sleep. Wish me luck as I attempt this transition while the kids are out of school. I am sure they will allow me to sleep and not wake me up to break up stupid sibling rivalries. I am feeling strangely optimistic about the year to come. I know history has proved me wrong about this time and again but fuck it! I am feeling good and I am going ride this feeling out. New job, healthy kids, sexy man laying next to me. Life is good!
Happy New Year to all of you!