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Unicorn Concerns

Swinger Q & A

Hey Karen,

I have an “anonymous” question I”m hoping you can help me with.
I’m single and keep wanting to go to the local on-site club. I’ve only been there a couple of times and it was with a partner. When we were there I only met one woman who was there by herself and she was a regular who recently became single.

What do you guys think about me going by myself? I don’t know anybody to go with and I really need…uh…need to get out. ;)

I think physical safety I would feel okay about because it’s “on site”, and I have no issues leaving doors open. Just wondering if you know any women who have gone to clubs by themselves. Any concerns or tips?

Thank You!

Karen Says:

I know a few single girls but they usually come to the club with ‘friends’. Do you have a profile on a swinger site? If the on-site club has a website, look to see if they have any “swinger site” affiliations. You could set up a profile and see if maybe you could talk to some folks before you go…make some friends ahead of time. If I were single, that is what I would do. SwingLifeStyle is a good site and they list parties at clubs that would be local to you. They usually have a guest list which allows you to see people who have signed up to go to local parties. SLS is free to join and it might be safe way to see who might be there. Maybe even a way to “meet” people before you go.

I would think this would be the safest way. Meeting people online is fun but I would caution against putting too many pics online for people. I have found lots of folks on sites that just like to collect pictures. Be honest on your profile and state that you are looking to meet some new friends. Don’t feel pressured to hang out with only one couple at the club once you are there. Once people know you are there alone your “unicorn status”1 will make you very popular.

Miguel Says:

Sign on to as many adult dating sites you can find to make it easier to find someone to go to the clubs/club with you. Most good clubs have good rules and even security. You will be the proverbial “unicorn,” you will be very popular. You may even find another unicorn to go with. Have fun and leave anxiety at the door.


  1. A Unicorn is a single female in the swinger lifestyle, so rare she is almost a myth.

The Double Standard


One of the greatest perks about being a swinger is getting two girls and one guy together. A FMF mix is almost every guys dream. This is not always so easy to accomplish. The single female in the swinger lifestyle is called a “unicorn” for a reason. They are so rare, they are almost a myth. The single male on the other hand, they are very common. Dime a dozen, take your pick. I know this is every guys dream, and almost every female in the lifestyle has had a liason that was just the girls playing and the guys watching. I call this the girl/girl. This is a newbie play and it used to irritate me to no end.
Why, you ask?
I’ll tell you…
There is alot of pressure to perform when people are watching. Since this is something requested/fantasized about almost exclusively by newbies there is even more pressure to make it perfect. In this situation it almost always becomes about giving that newbie female pleasure and she is almost always not going to reciprocate. I am not a paid performer, I do this because I enjoy it. I want to get off too. I really enjoy a women who has a neutral taste. If you spend anytime with your face in pussy, you may understand this. If not, well. Some women have a non-neutral taste. It lingers and can be smelled on everything that touches it. There is really nothing she can do about it. I am neutral. The rare times I have not been neutral there was something out of whack with my body….pregnancy, yeast infection. Miguel was able to tell me right away. There is no way for me to know if the girl is going to be neutral unless Miguel asks the guy outright. This is not always something that comes up, but boy it does cross my mind. I swing both ways but I really am a lover of cock. There I said it!

Plus, women are so fucking weird. The single females we have played with almost always have a secret agenda. They either just want me, just want him, or want us to be exclusively with them. Our lives are too hectic to have an exclusive relationship with any one person outside of each other. I am so over the single female with the secret agenda that I have given up trying to find a normal one. I don’t even look. There is got to be something rotten in Denmark if I see a single female on a website or at a club. There is always something “wrong” with that person. I dare you to argue with me on this point!

The single guy, on the other hand… He is probably just tired of trying to deal with crazy chicks. Most guys have no problem hooking up with a couple. He just has to be polite and know his place. They don’t mind being used for the night. I have never had a single guy get “jealous” that we were hooking up with another couple. They don’t care! The do always try to get me to hook them up with a friend, but that really doesn’t bother me as much as a crazy chick stalking Miguel. I always tell them that we keep the unicorns for ourselves, if we had any we would.

Maybe I am the selfish one? When we hook-up with a single guy, it is mostly all about me. I am a bit narcissistic and selfish. I fully admit that. But there was a few times, well….When we first started we never tried to hook-up with guys that swing both ways. I think we even had a bit of a stigma about it. But now, well we don’t mind it so much. Miguel has always had an open mind and even though it is not really his preference, sometimes he does things because he knows I like to watch. It is all just sex right? I know most guys would never consider it, out loud.

Why is this such a double standard?

I don’t think it is a big deal if guys perform sex acts on each other. It turns me on actually. Does that make me weird? Don’t answer that, actually I don’t care! I think most girls would want to watch two guys. I never got to see real penetration, but it is on my list…

Really, cause I want to know. This poll is anonymous I promise.

Hot night at home

Last night we had a unicorn over. The sexy Latin girl I was telling you about from last Saturday, she came over and made our night awesome.

Miguel suggested I wear a mini skirt with no panties and a black top. Being the good submissive I am I was happy to oblige.  We invited her in our private entrance and made some small talk. I leaned over to show her some pics we had recently taken and Miguel got behind me and played with my pussy. Miguel had been telling her how stressed I have been due to school and the kids and she offered to give me a massage. So I stripped off my mini skirt, black tee shirt and bra laid down on the bed. Miguel helped her out of her clothes. She was a little over dressed in a black strapless shirt and jeans. She got some lotion out of her fun bag and rubbed me down. She started at my shoulders and worked her way down to my calves. After about 20 minutes I felt like butter in her hands.

I suggested we do the same for her. She laid down and we rubbed her down. Miguel worked on her back and shoulders, while I massaged her sexy ass and legs. Her massage didn’t last quite as long cause I couldn’t wait to play with her pussy. I got one of my toys out and gave her clit a light massage. I told her to roll on her back so we could have better access. I kept working on her clit and pussy while Miguel kissed her and played with her breasts. I really wanted to her to cum for me so I fingered her and massaged her clit with my vibrating toy. I started out with one and worked my way up to almost my whole hand jamming her pussy while she moaned.

After she came really good, she wanted to eat my pussy so I laid down and got down near the edge of the bed and went to work. She lightly grazed my sensitive clit with her tongue and fingered my pussy. After a few minutes of this Miguel got behind her and worked his cock in.  She lost track of what she was doing, so I sat up and grabbed my vibrating toy and started rubbing my clit while I watched them fuck. Miguel was really enjoying himself as he fucked her and watched me play with myself. They were in my favorite position, doggie style with him standing behind her. He grabbed her hair and rammed it in her and she came with loud moans of pleasure.

He promised to save his come for me, because I love it so much. He pulled out of her and pulled the condom off. She went back to licking my clit and Miguel worked it in while she licked me. I was so wet Miguel had no problem slipping his cock right in, and working it slowly to give her access to my clit. When she stopped licking me Miguel rubbed my clit and fucked me till I came all over his cock. He came really hard in my pussy and I continued to come while she played with my clit almost forcing Miguel’s come seeping out of me.

We got dressed after cleaning up a bit. She promised to see us again real soon. I can’t fucking wait to see her again!

Halloween weekend at the club

(Please excuse the mess in the background of this picture…we all actually live in our house and it is not a museum, lol!)


Yesterday was a busy day for me. I was given a ton of homework this weekend including; an ATI practice test, a group project, an individual project, a care plan, and I have to study for a weekly quiz. My only saving grace is that I have no school on Monday. I had to take my kids to a fall festival yesterday, mandatory fun! And I also promised to help my friend move. All of this and I really was ready for a few beers and go out and have a great time. I was pretty excited to go out in my sexy costume with Miguel, but something weird happened when we got to the club. I was called out by a couple we were potentially gonna hook up with. The girl said that I looked a lot better now that I had put on some weight…..hold on!
The last time I saw this couple I was a few weeks pregnant!
Needless to say, this really through me off my game. I started thinking, “wow do I look fat??, how rude!, I don’t wanna play anymore….”
I walked into the restroom to clear my head and blow it off, then I hear Miguel talking, about me, to this couple. I can’t tell you exactly what was said, but it infuriated me. Somehow my opinion of this couple had taken a backseat to securing the match. GRRRR!
Ok, so fast forward a few awkward moments and we are back at the bar and I explain this to him, poor Miguel! He is just a boy after all. The whole next drink was spent by him trying to smooth over the situation, and keep drama at bay. I hate drama! That is our number one thing, to not end up being like that, with our whole relationship hanging out in public.
Sometime later, a certain Latin unicorn decided tonight to finally meet us. She arrived at the club with another unicorn in tow. Well the night was really looking up at this point. We talked for a while and then her and her friend disappeared. I kinda forgot about her and Miguel and I searched around for an open room. I was really just wanting Miguel at this point, but while I was in the bathroom, he called her to join us. In case you guys are keeping track that would be mistake #2. She was really hot and this ended up being a really good hook up. She was pretty good and watching Miguel fuck her was a real turn-on! Later she texted Miguel that her friend was full of questions and seemed interested in the lifestyle. She said she had a great time and promised next time she would not be so shy with us.
So, (even though I am a stupid girl who allowed a little personal issue ruin a potential hook up), I still got game! Hoping that maybe after trick-or-treating with the kids I can make it up to Miguel.


Unicorn Fun!

After I blogged here last night we did have a unicorn come over to visit. This beautiful girl came over and looked just like her picture. She brought a tool box with her….it was full of fun surprises! Her kit contained a Hitachi wand massager (the cadillac of messagers), a few glass dildos, a vibrating dildo, and a strap on.
We quickly decided to start with the hitachi and she alternated eating me out and driving me to orgasm almost instantly with this toy. It only has 2 settings, “oh my god, that’s incredible!”, and “OH OH WOW!!!” She was very talented with her tongue too, lest I leave out how much she made me cum with her oral skills. After about 40 mins I was really eager to return the favor (and try out the strap on)! I got geared up, hit her for a bit with the hitachi and fucked missionary style with that strap on. The strap on was really big too, like 9″ and super thick. She took it like a champ, making sexy groans the whole time. It was really erotic fucking another woman. I could see myself in the mirror taken it to town, she was vocal in the most sexy way, and Miguel layin next to me cheering me on. Wow, I gotta tell you, it was really HOT! She sucked Miguels cock for a while afterwards and then I got to watch him fuck her. She was really good, tight, and totally confident in herself. It was such a turn on to be with someone with so much to offer in bed. We would definatly have her over again!
The strap-on was the biggest surprise, cuz I really thought I would not be able to do it. Miguel and I are definatly gonna invest in one in the near future. I loved fucking that girl! Next time I wanna fuck a girl doggie style. That position is hot, I love to watch Miguel going to town on a girl on all fours. I think he would like to watch me too. I gotta admit I am a bit sore today. Not just my woo either, my back is killing me, lol! It was definatly worth the pain. I would make a lazy guy thou…”I’m tired, you get on top!” We don’t have anything on the schedule for the next few nights but I got plenty of stories, I think next blog I’ll tell you about our handcuffs…

Unicorn Season!

Yeah! Miguel found us another unicorn! This is so rare. She is sexy Colombian. I can’t wait to meet her. We talked on the phone about how she found us (on aff) and this will be her first time. She said she is built like the typical Latin girl, curvy in all the right places, dark hair and chocolate brown eyes. Tonight it is so on…..

But now we might have a scheduling issue, cause the other unicorn has been calling.(My sexy blond from two weeks ago) We also have a few couples we have been talking to about potentially meeting out for drinks before going to the club. I guess we will just go and see where fate takes us tonight before we head out to the club. Think I am gonna wear my pink and black lingerie. I will definatly tell you how it all goes down, and with who, till then…mua!