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P-Spot Play and Massage

The month of November is prostate cancer awareness month. Movember is a moment meant to raise awareness of prostate cancer and other male cancer and associated charities. You can register over at http://www.movember.com and then just let your mustache grow showing the world you care about men’s health. Miguel already has a mustache, so we aren’t really participating. While I am on the subject of men’s health, I thought I might use this opportunity to talk about prostate play. There is a reason there are so many toys made specifically for prostate play. Don’t neglect your prostate! There are actually two ways to massage the p-spot.

  1. External massage requires only to massage the perineum (the area between the scrotum and anus). The external massaging of this area during a blow job will enhance the sensation and stimulate the external prostate. This is great for a man that is too intimidated to try internal massage.
  2. Internal massage not only feels wonderful, but it also helps to release the toxins stored inside of the prostate. In fact, doctors recommend prostate milking for any guy who has issues with their prostate, or wants to avoid issues in the future.

Anatomical aspects:

The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located between the bladder and the penis. The prostate is just in front of the rectum. The prostate secretes fluid that nourishes and protects sperm. During ejaculation, the prostate squeezes this fluid into the urethra, and it’s expelled with sperm as semen. Men with enlarged prostates have a hard time releasing urine through the urethra since it also goes through the prostate. After the age of 50 virtually ALL men have BPH (benign prostate hyperplasia). Not to scare anyone, but for most guys it is just a matter of when they will experience BPH. Prostate massage is useful for prostatitis, and inflammation of the prostate caused by blocked ducts in the prostate gland. It is not for acute prostatitis, because it could be dangerous.

Highly Recommended Prostate Toys:



Rocks Off Limited



Lux Male (BMS Enterprises)



Once you get your toy all picked out, get yourself,(or your partner), into a comfortable position. Get some lube on the head of the massager and slowly rub it on the anus. Try external prostate massage to help relax the sphincter muscles. Once it relaxes slowly slide it in. You can pair this with a hand job or blow job for extra fun. His response will probably be, “Best orgasm ever!”

Most men that have tried prostate massage will tell you that it produces some of the strongest orgasms they have ever felt.

Some men find that vibrations are too intense for initial prostate massage. I suggest starting off with something not vibrating for first contact. Prostate massage can also be done manually. Just lube up a finger and slide it in. Feel for the “bulb” towards the front of the body about 1″ above the sphincter and then stroke it in a “come here” motion, (be sure that your nails are trimmed). Sounds a bit similar to the g-spot for women right?

Once you establish that you have correctly located the prostate you can explore vibrations and various pressures to achieve the desired stimulation.

Obviously, once a man has explored prostate massage and fells it’s awesome power he will be more open to it. The Get-a-Grip prostate massager(by evolved) is one of my favorites because is small and non-threatening. It is thinner than the width of a finger and it won’t get accidentally turned around during play. This toy is pretty inexpensive as well, so if you (or your partner) hate it, you won’t have thrown out a bunch on money. It can be used with a partner or solo. I recently reviewed the Helix Syn (aneros) and found this manual toy to provide excellent p-spot massage. The other toys lines I suggested are recommendations from fellow reviewers.

What is really great about some toys is that it also consider the external perineum. The external perineum is located between the scrotum and the anus. Do not think that this erogenous area on the male anatomy should be ignored. A firm knuckle or two finger massage on the sensitive area between the anus and scrotum will enhance a hand job or blow job and help take his orgasm to the next level.

A Swinging Good Time


I had such a good time Monday night out with another swinging couple. Things just clicked with this couple. J and K are great hosts and they made us feel right at home with them. We have met this couple on two other previous occasions, both times I was out of commission. Monday night I had no such issues and I knew going in that we were going to have a sexy fun time.

I brought with me a bag of toys, as I usually do when there is any kind of attraction between me and the female. K is a smokin hot vixen with long blond hair and a very sexy body. J is equally sexy and I couldn’t wait to fuck them both. After a drink and little small talk we all went into the bedroom. I stripped off my clothes and pulled out a strap-on and inserted the Fuze Wilde. I approached K and we made out standing up. My black silicone cock awkwardly hanging between us, the guys were behind us on either side of the room just watching. I explored her mouth with mine and my hands found her nipples and eventually my fingers wondered down to her pussy. I am a bit picky about women, this girl I could hardly wait to lick.

I maneuvered her over to the bed and I got on my knees between her legs. I licked her slit and sucked her clitoris before inserting two fingers. I instructed Miguel to get the lube out of the bag. I slathered my cock up and inserted it into her pussy. She responded with a moan as I reached under to turn on the vibrator. The Fuze’s flat base buzzed away on my clitoris and labia as I fucked her. The guys moved in closer. J laid back on the bed beside us and Miguel stood next to us on the other side. I fucked her for a few minutes and then J suggested she turn around so she could could suck his cock as I fucked her. I grabbed her hips and fucked her doggy style. I can see the allure for guys fucking doggy style. Her ass looked so good and her hips gave me something to hold on to as I tried to thrust into her. I grew frustrated after a few minutes though. I didn’t get the pleasure of the cock being thrust into me and I wet and ready for a good fucking. I took off the strap-on and she redirected her attention to Miguel while I took my place sucking J’s cock.

There wasn’t any awkwardness in this hook up. We all fucked and sucked each other. It was hot being there and it still makes me wet when I think about it. At some point, She and I were both on the bed on our backs next to each other. Miguel was fucking her and J eating my pussy, she sucked on my nipple and we made out. I was drenched at this point and J fucked me till we were a sweaty mess. She got some of my toys out to fuck me with them while the guys rested. J took a little break while I sucked his cock on my knees while she fucked me with the Tsunami? Miguel sucked her pussy while she worked the toys on me. The silicone cock filled my hole and worked my g-spot. She turned her focus back on Miguel and J put on a fresh condom on. I rode his cock really enjoying the view next to us as Miguel fucked her doggy style until she wore him out. I was a dripping mess having cum more times than I can count. J’s cock slide around inside of me and we fucked until I had to stop. I laid back on the bed and caught Miguel removing the condom so she could sucked him off again. She worked her mouth on his cock until Miguel came, she swallowed it all. I worked the Fresh on my clit as I watched and she came back over to me. She used a glass toy to fuck me. The cool glass felt so soothing to my now thoroughly fucked hole. J sat next to us to watch and encourage her to fuck me. After I came really hard we both focus on J’s cock. She got mouth full of cum and she then she kissed me. Her mouth was full of his cum so I got a good taste. I remarked on how much how much his cum tastes like Miguel’s and she agreed, their cum was tasted almost exactly the same.

I actually had some more firsts with this swap. First time I swapped cum with another girl, first time I fucked a girl doggy style with a strap-on, first time I used so many toys in one sex session, first time I came so many times with another couple. It was a really good time. I actually brought my stripper pole with me as well, but we didn’t get a chance to break it out. We also talked about getting some photos. Maybe next time….

Performance Issues


We had an interesting weekend. We went to a party in Sarasota run by the great folks over at Florida’s Finest Couples. They throw parties once a month and they are always packed. This weekend was no exception, to the point where we were glad we got there early so we could find a place to park! I had a blast there talking to people and dancing. I don’t dance well, but I love to do it. I was super excited about this night because of a certain couple we met the week before.

The weird part about this night was how many couples we were suppose to be meeting there. We had a great table by the dance floor so were able to see a lot of people. We don’t make it down to Sarasota often, so this was a good chance to meet people we, (and by that I mean Miguel) have been talking to. Our table was crowded with people. We had a lot of couples talking to us: some because we talked to them, some recognized us from social profiles, and some where fans of my blog. It was fun but a bit overwhelming. We had a couple buy us shots and I got to dance with almost everyone. We don’t normally get so much attention, but I get super social after a few drinks and I might be the kind of person that invites all that attention. I even went off about it on twitter, (thank you after midnight twitter friends)! Anyways, there were a lot of people talking to us but….

I actually walked into the club with an agenda. I have cautioned against this so many times even here on my blog…please don’t try to live out some fantasy with strangers. I broke my own rule and it came back to bite me! We met a couple last weekend at Eyz that I really wanted to play with. We ended up leaving early last weekend and I was so hoping to get a chance this weekend with them. I have been thinking about them all week. I hoped they would show up, I hoped they would like us as much as we liked them. They showed up at the party and that was it for me. I made my choice and we were going home with them!

They are a very sexy couple. They were good hosts and we enjoyed some good conversation. We moved over to the bedroom and then…things went bad for me. There was nothing wrong with him at all, let me make that clear. I just had…issues. I just walked away feeling like I could have been so much better. I can’t recall ever feeling like this after a hook-up. I don’t even know if the guy would say it sucked, but I do. I had a bad night, and I didn’t even drink too much so I have no excuse. I think I built it up too much in my head. I kinda had this idea of what he would be like, and then it just wasn’t like that at all. I hate the feeling that this is the impression they are left with. Miguel and her seemed to hit it off well. She was very sexy and I focused on her for a bit. I tried to make it up, I am pretty sure I was able to get her off. Thank you shareable silicone toys. It just doesn’t make up for him and potentially ruining a good fuck. I wanted to call “do-over”, but that is not going to happen. This is a bad feeling. I told Miguel this must be how guys feel when they can’t perform, or when they cum too fast. This is a crappy feeling.

The good news is that I know where things went wrong and how I can avoid these issues in the future. I am truly humbled by this experience. I think this could have happened to anybody, and it is not the end of the world. I just think it is an odd thing for a woman to feel this way. I now understand, I fucking get how a woman can just totally ruin shit with performance issues. I hope I will remember this and be more fun next time. I hope I will be more understanding when a guy is having issues in the future.

Toy Collection

I have never shared this on my blog, but my toy collection is a bit out of control. I have acquired quite a few toys since I started reviewing just 17 months ago. Some I have purchased myself, some I have won or were free gifts, most I was sent for review. I took some pictures and I plan on sharing them all here. You can click on any of the pics to see them bigger.

I actually had to go out and buy things to hold my toy collection. I am long past keeping them in a bedside drawer, but I do have some by my bedside. (Namely the lube and toy cleaners, I always have a towel nearby so I can wipe them down.)

Notice the Leaf Life toy just peaking out there? In case you are wondering what the hell is in that devine toy box, I took everything out so you can see.


Additionally, I went out and purchased totes with fabric drawers and stuffed them with toys. It is a bit difficult to locate things so I only keep them half full. In retrospect I should have purchased only the smaller drawers so I could see things a bit better. The toys get buried in these drawers sometimes. I use the storage pouch if the toy comes with one, so most the LELO toys are hidden in black satin pouches. I have to real careful about keeping materials segregated. I keep lower grade materials in zip lock bags so they don’t ruin the finish on my silicone favorites.


It gets worse… since there are toys I keep but haven’t used in a while. I keep my most loathe toys in a bag, but I have since outgrown the bag and some have spilled over into this drawer mixed in with some great toys. I have even managed to keep most of the packaging for the toys I don’t use. Why? I don’t really know why…

On top of my drawers I have a little hodgepodge of things I think are cute and random stuff I need to review. I also have this handy box over stuffed with warranties and instructions, Ya know…just in case I actually use something enough to break it and it needs a warranty or I need to consult the instructions for a toy? I guess I just wanted to keep everything in a place I could easily find it. I hope I never need to actually locate a warranty in this box…



Then there is my travel bag. This bag is full of stuff and is ready to go. I keep a lot of glass and silicone in this bag since it is easy to clean and body safe. I have lots of lube in this bag, some personal wipes, a few condoms, and (of course) my collar.

I have all the cords in a drawer. The drawer is a bit of a mess at this time so I didn’t take any photos of it. Showing off my collection would not even be complete without showing you my naughty book collection. Books needing review are all the way on the right. The one I am reading now is on my nightstand. (There are also quite a few on my kindle I have reviewed this past year.)

Somethings are missing here in these pics. Like the Fleshlight Miguel keeps under his nightstand, all the floggers and paddles we have hanging up, a few movies we have in a shoe box under the bed, and the toys I keep in the closet due to their size (like our liberator bonbon). I am not terribly organized by the look of these pics. I just wanted to share with you all some photos of my toy collection. I would love to hear about how you keep your collection.


Mojowijo is a set of toys for him and her which uses new technology via a wii remote control over the internet. Unfortunately, this toy has more cons than pros. It is large and too cumbersome to be used well comfortably. It looks nice and reasonable in this picture doesn’t it?

Okay, so this vibe was a bit intimidating in size and instruction. I am a simple person. I just want a vibe to get me off. The thought of someone on the other side of the internet controlling my vibrator was a bit intriguing but it turns out to be much too complicated. Case and point the required hardware:

  • Nintendo WiiTM remote control (Note: Nintendo Wii Gaming Console is NOT required)
  • PC with Windows 7® operating system and a Bluetooth® adapter (Note: Windows XP® and Vista® operating systems are NOT SUPPORTED)
  • 1GHz or faster 32-bit (x86) or 64-bit (x64) processor
  • 1 GB RAM (32-bit) or 2 GB RAM (64-bit)
  • High Speed Internet Connection
  • Active Skype® account

Once I got over the list I agreed to review this product. It came nicely packaged and included a sample of lube, the vibe itself, the wii remote holder extension and batteries for the vibe itself. The vibe takes two AAA batteries, the wii remote takes 2 AA batteries. Assuming you already have the wii controller, of course…

Underneath the foam cut out was a “use and pleasure guide” dvd with better instructions on how to use this vibe. It seems pretty simple but I never ended up using this vibe over the internet. The directions give more than enough to get you started. I imagine this could work if you will be seperated from your partner or just wanted someone else to have control. This vibe can be used a few different ways: the vibe by itself with no extension, the vibe with the extension giving you control or the vibe with the extension giving someone else control via the internet. The vibe has a few different “caps” that provide the base. Out of the box the vibe has the standard cap on it which has a turn style control on it.

Then you have to pick if you want to use it with the standard cap or add the wii remote to the handle.

The wii remote slides into the handle and some of the buttons are available through the windows. The remote can then be used to control the handle, or you can link up with Skype and the Mojowijo software and let someone else control this vibe for you. Mojowijo is planning to have chat room available where you can meet other players who have the software. The concept is great. The vibe will then be motion actiavted and someone can control the vibrations, once you connect to them, with just the flick of a wrist. The remotes will use the same technology that made wii so revolutionary.

Unfortunately, the vibrations are a bit diffuse. This would be great for my g-spot if the shaft was more solid. It does not provide enough pressure for me though.

It is much better with just the vibe sans the extension arm. Once I got the arm on it, it is too long to maneuver without cramping or being in an awkward angle. The shaft is flexible and feels hollow. It is kinda flimsy when pressure is applied. The shaft does have small raised bump which is nice for added stimulation when used externally on the clitoris. The vibration level is not strong enough for clitoral stimulation for me.

The male counterpart to this vibe is not useful at all. Miguel described it as “less than useless”. I hate to be so harsh about this but if you look at it with the handle you can see that this is no pleasure object, it is a big tease. Even without the handle, the shaft is too long to be held comfortably. Maybe if I ever need to try to stimulate Miguel with difuse buzzy vibratons on an open ring from like 6 feet away this vibe will come in handy. In the meantime, Miguel couldn’t give this any sort of good review. He hated it and said it didn’t even feel good. The textured ring is very flimsy and does not provide firm contact when used.


The Mojowijo is not waterproof, with all of the extra bit of electrical smartness that is to be expected I guess. The silicone is very smooth and not tacky at all.

This vibe had such a great concept, but it did not deliver where it really mattered. If they make one with more power anytime soon, I might be interested. For now I will only say this vibe will work if you like teaser vibrations on a flimsy shaft. As for the male version, I do not recommend this vibe at all.

I was supplied this toy free of charge in exchange for an un-biased review. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.

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