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~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

A Feminist Defense of Consensual NonconsentHow does a woman who identifies as a feminist reconcile her desire to submit to her partner during sex? Being somewhat new to kink, I had some trepidations about how submission seemingly went against my ethics.

IntimatesAs the evening drew on, I felt like the sexiest woman alive. It’s strange to describe it this way, but I actually felt brimming with a sort of sexual energy. A lustiness, a sexiness, an allure and a desire all at once.

Tightest SpaceI’m paying close attention to your moans, and I stop whenever it feels like it might be too much. But the incredibly tight feeling of your ass gripping my cock is so delicious that I need to get all the way in.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

An Open Letter to the Sex Toy IndustryI write this post not to just let off some steam but with the smallest glimmer of hope that maybe…….just maybe….some of these words will land on the right computer screen and be taken to heart. Maybe one change will happen.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

International #Fisting Day!! – Beyond awareness and calling for action, I think International Fisting Day is a great day to celebrate fisting; an intimate, hugely erotic and often orgasmic act that doesn’t get the recognition it deserves.

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

A Bit about Crushes
Are You on the Pill?
How to Approach Your Partner with a Fantasy
Meeting New People
Sex And Disability: What Does the Literature Say?
Settling – Striving For Connections in Non-Monogamy
Sex and Heart Attacks
Training my rear end

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Getting Past The Word ‘Slut’
Private Pictures
The Fetish Fashion of l’Enfant Terrible

Kink & Fetish

Enough is Enough
In his hands the vibe was intensity personified
Live Well
Public Exposure: The Third Birthday Fantasy
Scammers come in different flavours
When Submission is a Dry Biscuit

Erotic Writing

A contrast in swinging
A Frightened Heart
6-Some Fun
Come Again
Her First Time
In the Bathroom

The Double Standard


One of the greatest perks about being a swinger is getting two girls and one guy together. A FMF mix is almost every guys dream. This is not always so easy to accomplish. The single female in the swinger lifestyle is called a “unicorn” for a reason. They are so rare, they are almost a myth. The single male on the other hand, they are very common. Dime a dozen, take your pick. I know this is every guys dream, and almost every female in the lifestyle has had a liason that was just the girls playing and the guys watching. I call this the girl/girl. This is a newbie play and it used to irritate me to no end.
Why, you ask?
I’ll tell you…
There is alot of pressure to perform when people are watching. Since this is something requested/fantasized about almost exclusively by newbies there is even more pressure to make it perfect. In this situation it almost always becomes about giving that newbie female pleasure and she is almost always not going to reciprocate. I am not a paid performer, I do this because I enjoy it. I want to get off too. I really enjoy a women who has a neutral taste. If you spend anytime with your face in pussy, you may understand this. If not, well. Some women have a non-neutral taste. It lingers and can be smelled on everything that touches it. There is really nothing she can do about it. I am neutral. The rare times I have not been neutral there was something out of whack with my body….pregnancy, yeast infection. Miguel was able to tell me right away. There is no way for me to know if the girl is going to be neutral unless Miguel asks the guy outright. This is not always something that comes up, but boy it does cross my mind. I swing both ways but I really am a lover of cock. There I said it!

Plus, women are so fucking weird. The single females we have played with almost always have a secret agenda. They either just want me, just want him, or want us to be exclusively with them. Our lives are too hectic to have an exclusive relationship with any one person outside of each other. I am so over the single female with the secret agenda that I have given up trying to find a normal one. I don’t even look. There is got to be something rotten in Denmark if I see a single female on a website or at a club. There is always something “wrong” with that person. I dare you to argue with me on this point!

The single guy, on the other hand… He is probably just tired of trying to deal with crazy chicks. Most guys have no problem hooking up with a couple. He just has to be polite and know his place. They don’t mind being used for the night. I have never had a single guy get “jealous” that we were hooking up with another couple. They don’t care! The do always try to get me to hook them up with a friend, but that really doesn’t bother me as much as a crazy chick stalking Miguel. I always tell them that we keep the unicorns for ourselves, if we had any we would.

Maybe I am the selfish one? When we hook-up with a single guy, it is mostly all about me. I am a bit narcissistic and selfish. I fully admit that. But there was a few times, well….When we first started we never tried to hook-up with guys that swing both ways. I think we even had a bit of a stigma about it. But now, well we don’t mind it so much. Miguel has always had an open mind and even though it is not really his preference, sometimes he does things because he knows I like to watch. It is all just sex right? I know most guys would never consider it, out loud.

Why is this such a double standard?

I don’t think it is a big deal if guys perform sex acts on each other. It turns me on actually. Does that make me weird? Don’t answer that, actually I don’t care! I think most girls would want to watch two guys. I never got to see real penetration, but it is on my list…

Really, cause I want to know. This poll is anonymous I promise.

Nirvana -Review


I got the Nirvana Waterproof from FunWares. The Nirvana is made by Golden Triangle. The Nirvana is 7.5″ long with a 1.5″ clitoral vibe attached. It is a rabbit style vibrator. It has an insertable length of 5″. The Nirvana has two motors controlled by one button with a dedicated off button. The Nirvana is made of silicone with a plastic cap and a silver steel band for decoration. This toy is waterproof for extra fun and easy clean up.

As you can see, the Nirvana has a curve for g-spot stimulation. What you can’t see is how it flexes. The clitoral stimulator is a bit ridged till you get to part where it meets the shaft. It will bend alot from the base. I like that the clitoral shaft is a bit hard, it make pin-point stimulation easy to achieve. The shaft has some give but the motor is in the tip, so it only bends a little in the middle. I only had to insert this toy about 3″ til I found my g-spot, the clitoral shaft hit me just right! This toy was able to hit both my g-spot and stimulate my clitoris at the same time. Few toys have ever been able to do that for me. If I would have inserted it the full 5″ it would have been too high to hit my g-spot. I made this toy work for me, but it may not work for everyone.

The shaft is a bit on the slim side with a diameter of only 1″. The tip is somewhat larger for added g-spot stimulation and could be difficult to insert for some. Use water-based lubrication since this toy is made of silicone. The silicone does have a bit of drag to it. It needs to be cleaned before and after use since it picks up hair and lint a bit. This toy was easy to clean  since it is waterproof. You can run it under water and even immerse it during play. It passed all my waterproof tests with no water getting inside the battery compartment. This toy takes 2 AAA batteries, not included. The batteries are easy to insert by unscrewing the base of the toy. It would be hard to screw the cap on wrong since when it is screwed on it is flush with the toy.


This toy was very easy to use. It has 10 settings for lots of variety. This includes three intensity settings and seven patterns. The setting were listed right on the box, and it was nice to refer to something to find the perfect pattern. The top button controls the patterns and the bottom button turns it off. The wonderful thing about this toy is that it has a bit of memory. It will start on whichever mode you left it on last. I like this since I tend to use the same mode every time.

This toy came packaged in the typical plastic clamshell with information about the toy on both sides. The toy was clearly seen from both sides of the packaging. It is not discreet, it is minimal and recyclable. This toy is very quiet for having two motors powering it. It would not be heard across the room under a blanket. It is pretty powerful as well. I would give it 3.5 out of 5 on my “vroom” scale. It is stronger than the PicoBong line but not as strong as my we-vibe. They are all made of silicone, which is not the best conductor of vibrations but is considered one of the best materials for sex toys.

FunWares carries this vibe for $31.95. The Nirvana has a whole line of products similar to this. So, yes! You can probably find it in a different color. I really liked this toy and I would recommend it.

Nirvana Waterproof - white
Nirvana Waterproof – white

 I want to thank FunWares for sending me this product for review!

Review Summary
1 being weak, 5 being earth shattering.
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The Bottom line.

I received this product from FunWares free of charge in exchange for an honest review. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.

ON Arousal Oil -Review



I received ON Arousal Oil for review. I was very skeptical. I tried a warming lube recently and it felt like a UTI. I am not overly sensitive, but my clitoris is!  ON is a blend of essential oils that contains no harsh preservatives, parabens, perfumes, or artificial flavoring. It is menthol free. It is meant as a stimulant for the clitoris, this stuff really works too!

Ingredients: Proprietary Essential Oil Blend Including; Sweet Almond Oil, Cinnamon Cassia, Natural Tocopherols (vitamin E); Silica, Phenoxyethanol and Ethylhhexglycerin, Rosemary Oil Extract

Directions: Apply 1-2 drops onto your clitoris. Allow up to 2 minutes for full effects – lasts up to 45 minutes. Reapply as desired.

I was terrified. 45 minutes is a long time to be uncomfortable! I am a product reviewer, and so I took a chance. Miguel helped me to apply 2 drops directly onto my clitoris. I was scared to have it slip down to my urethra, but it stayed right where it was suppose to. In hindsight I know now I can apply the two drops to a finger and work it on. That even sounds more fun, and trust me it is! Okay, so I got the oil on and I waited. It took about 2 minutes to feel anything. At first, I felt a little warming sensation on my clitoris. This lasted about a minute. It was not uncomfortable at all. Then the tingles started. Wow! Like a small amount of electricity directly on my clit! The ON Arousal Oil felt amazing by itself. Coupled with a partners finger or a vibrating toy and OMG!

I am hooked, this stuff is so good. It made my clitoris tingle the whole time. It really does last about 45 minutes. The product claims to help natural lubrication, and it really does. Not that I have a problem with that, but even Miguel remarked at how wet it made me. The package says if you do use a personal lubricant to use ON first to fully experience it. This oil is very portable and discreet. I took it out with me on Saturday and applied a bit just before playtime with Miguel. I had the same amazing results. I really love this oil!  Inside the tiny box was a paper with frequently asked questions. Two questions I am going to quote.

Can I use condoms with ON? On is not a lubricant and is for clitoral use only. ON should not come in contact with latex condoms.

Is ON safe to ingest during Oral Sex? Yes. On is formulated with natural botanical ingredients, and is completely safe to ingest. It even has a pleasant naturally sweet taste.

It is safe to reapply ON as often as you like. I recommend waiting the full 2 minutes before adding more. I tasted ON for this review. It tastes a bit like pure ginger. The taste lasts about 5 minutes, less if you are drinking something.

I highly recommend this product. It really works and it feels amazing! The bottle I received is 5ml/.17 fl. oz. and it has over 50 applications. This is a worthwhile investment!


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I really liked this product!

I received this product free of charge in exchange for an honest review. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.