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How can we make sex more fun? Okay, so nobody really asks that because sex is just about the most fun thing you can do in this lifetime. Seriously, how can we take the most fun thing we can do and make it better? Make it so that she gets off every time? Most woman need a little help, some don’t need any. I actually do need help during sex to get off. I have a few go-to toys that work consistently and are easy to use.

First, and my favorite, is the small powerful clitoral vibe. There are plenty to choose from. Like power? Try a RO-88mm Bullet.  For less than $30, this vibe has tons of power and it is small enough to fit between two bodies. There are loads of other small clitoral vibrators that can be used at the right moment to enhance an orgasm for her and make it extra fun for him as well. I actually keep a few clitoral toys on hand next to the bed. They are always ready to go and there are a few of them just in case one loses power before I get off. These toys are small and can easily be hidden. Most of them are waterproof and easy to clean.

Cock rings are another option and they can be fun for both partners. If you have the right ring at the right angle. I really like the LELO Tor II but honestly it can be too tight on some men. Also, it has a big price tag. Fit is really important. The guy would have to enjoy a cock ring, some men don’t. The Sonic Ring Kit would be a good one to start out with. It is inexpensive and has a removable vibrator if all else fails. If you have never tried a ring, give it a go. You never know how much it can add to the experience.

There are some vibrators that work during sex without having to be worn by the male. The We-Vibe is an example of those types of vibes. The woman wears them and it vibrates the clitoris and the g-spot. Hands free stimulation so he (or she) can still penetrate. Positioning is really important and not all women will be able to enjoy this much if the fit isn’t right. The vibrations might not be powerful enough for some women. When this vibe works it is magical, but when it doesn’t it is a big ole waste of money.

I did not mention any g-spot toys in this because I only want to highlight toys that (hetero) couples can use during intercourse. If a couple is into anal play there are also loads of those type toys on the market. Most can be worn during sex (in either partner) to help make the most fun thing we do, even better. For anal toys I caution people to be real careful with materials. You really don’t want to play with something in that orifice that can’t be sterilized. Silicone and glass are at the top of my list of safe materials. Silicone is somewhat better for first times since it usually has some kind of give. Silicone is easy to clean with a 10% bleach solution and can even be boiled for 3 minutes to sterilize. For anal play something like the Silk is a good first time toy. The nice thing about this toy is the flared base making it less likely get lost. Once you get more experience a butt plug is great during sex. Most plugs are designed to stay in as long as care to wear it. Also, most toys can be felt by the man through the vaginal wall.

I hope this helps you figure out where to start. There are a lot of options. Babeland has a number of guides that will show you where to start if you still have questions.

This post was sponsored by Babeland.

JimmyJane Form 2



I was really elated to receive my very own JimmyJane Form 2 from MemeShop for review. MemeShop picked this out for me. This is actually a sex toy I have been wanting for a long time. I have never owned anything from JimmyJane and I was really impressed with this little gadget!

Materials: Silicone & Stainless Steel

Dimensions: 3″ x 1.75″ (1″ arms”)



The JimmyJane Form 2 is rechargeable, waterproof, discreet, and powerful. It is a small clitoral vibrator. It fits perfectly into the palm of my hand. It has two motors, one in each of its arms. The motors work together. The ears are stiff and firm. The will bend slightly with a bit of pressure. The best use I could find for this vibe to start off with my clitoris nestled between the arms, but then I always end up using just one arm to cover my whole clitoris to orgasm. This vibe is really fun for and can be used on all erogenous zones of the body. I enjoyed it on my nipples and it can be used on the super sensitive area between the scrotum and the cock. I didn’t try this vibe internally, and I would not suggest anyone use this vibe anally.

The Form 2 has a three button interface. The vibe has three speeds and 4 patterns. It has an on/speed control pattern button(+), dedicated off button(-), and a function button(~). The buttons are on the side of vibe and covered with silicone. It is a wee-bit louder than I would have expected. It is pretty quiet, but at the highest level it produces a whine that might be heard though the door in a quiet house. The noise was not distracting for me but worth mentioning. The Form 2 also has a travel lock. In fact, the toy comes in the locked mode. To unlock or re-lock it just press the top (+) and bottoms (~) buttons at the same time.


The silicone on this has a bit of drag and does attract a bit of lint. The silicone is compatible with water-based lubrication. The Form 2 charges in a base. The Form 2 will light up when it is charging. When it is removed from the base it will flash once, twice, three or four times showing you how much of a charge it has. If it blinks three times it has a full charge. If it blinks four slow blinks it has zero charge. It can sit on its charger anytime it is not in use and will not overcharge. The first time it needs to be charged for at least 2 hours. I was able to use this vibe three times before the charge ran out. The Form 2 will run for up to 7 hours on a full charge.


The vibrations on the Form 2 are strong, even on the lowest setting. I really loved all the settings and I even enjoyed played with this thing on its lowest setting. I found this vibe to be tons of fun. The unique shape makes this vibe really one of a kind. I was able to get pin-point and diffuse vibrations on all my most sensitive spots. It is completely waterproof so it can also be taken into the shower or tub. The Form 2 is really easy to clean with soap and water or a sex toy cleaner. I found that JimmyJane Form 2 had so many uses. The best use I found for this vibe is to let it tickle the area you want stimulated and not to apply too much pressure. From the Jimmy Jane website:

FORM 2 Suggested Uses

  • Hold FORM 2 so that the ears are on either side of the clitoris, labia, or other pleasurable area. Stroke, squeeze the ears together, or simply stay still and let the vibrations do the work.
  • Slide FORM 2 up and down between the labia. Vary the motion so that one or both ears periodically comes in contact with the clitoris.
  • Hold FORM 2 at the base of the two ears so that with a little squeeze you can push the two of them together to stimulate the clitoris or other parts of the body, where you might usually like a nibble.
  • Take FORM 2 into the bathtub with you and make waves (of pleasure). Bring the tips of the two ears close to the clitoris (or other sensitive parts of the body). The water between the two ears comes to life, transmitting the vibrations to your skin. You may find that you can have an orgasm without ever coming in direct contact.
  • For more gentle vibration, use the lower portion of FORM 2 (below the ears).


This toy is almost perfect. It is one of the best toys I have ever owned. The only problem I found is that when I put extra pressure on the arms, or touched the ears together, sometimes the arms don’t transfer the vibrations as much as they should. JimmyJane addressed this issue on their website in the FAQ’s about Form 2:

Help! It’s making a grinding noise/the vibration is shifting into the base.
When the ears of FORM 2 are pressed together, pressure is also exerted on the motors, and this can cause the vibration to temporarily change and/or become louder. Vibration will not stop, nor will FORM 2 become damaged. This change is normal and indicates the motors are functioning properly.

I would still highly recommend this vibe. It is expensive, but worth it in my opinion.

The Form 2 came in an extra large box. The box seemed like a bit of a waste really. Sadly the box did not contain a storage pouch. The box did contain lots of information about the Form 2 and how to care for it. The box was not discreet. It could be used for storage, but I just keep my Form 2 charging all the time. The Form 2 has a three year limited warranty. Three years is one of the longest warranties in the industry. The details about the warranty are also found in the giant box.


The JimmyJane Form 2 can be purchased at MemeShop. MemeShop is a UK based company that sells lingerie, toys, and gifts. The website is really easy to navigate. They offer free shipping in the UK and a low cost flat rate shipping for everywhere else. They have lots of unique sexy items!

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Review Summary
1 being weak, 5 being earth shattering.
The volume of the toy on it’s highest setting.
Material Safety.
Value of toy for the price.

I received this product free of charge in exchange for an honest review. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.


Cool Stuff


I am a bit shocked about not winning the $550 million dollar powerball last week. You too?! WTF? I saw that some guy on the East Coast might be holding the winning ticket. He checked it on is way to work at a convenience store. Why would you go to work after winning that much money? I don’t think I would. I would be so distracted about all the ways that I think having cooler stuff is gonna make me more happy… Then again, I am really just guessing. Who really knows what they would do if they suddenly had that much money? I am sure every powerball ticket holder had at least a loose plan and a bit of hope. I don’t think I will ever really know. It is fun to dream about it. I know money can’t really buy happiness. But…

Miguel bought us a new bed. We had our bed less than five years and it was already giving us back pain. The new bed is memory foam which makes for a weird sleep experience. I woke up a few times and rolled over to discover that my body impression was still in the bed. This is gonna take some getting used-to. I have heard these beds are good for sex, I guess I’ll let you know… We did go out to the club this weekend. It was a really fun night. This past weekend was another Swinger Speed Dating night with my friend Rebecca Ammon at the club. We met a few new couples and partied with some good friends. We ended up only hooking up with each other but it was still a really great night.

I starting my new job. I hate and love changes. I am just hoping for a smooth transition. We had a great weekend with the kids. We took them to see the Santa parade and then to the city festival. I feel pretty content with the way things are going here. I feel like I am just running out of time. Like it is slipping away. I started Christmas shopping so that might be the source of my angst. The clock is ticking….

Speaking of changes, I was hoping to put a Christmas shopping guide together for those of you looking for sexy gifts. I try to stay out of the whole consumerism loop, cause I really don’t want to get all wrapped up in that muck. I do advertise though to try to make enough money to keep this blog from costing me and I have definitely felt the impact of something I have tried and failed to ignore. I like sex toys. I think they make a great gift because it shows you care. Last year I put a list together naughty toys. A year makes a big difference, almost none of those toys made my list. I am only gonna give you my list of absolute favorites. Keep in mind that I have over 100 toys in my collection, these are the toys I love and use the most often.

Clitoral Toys- I have a love for waterproof toys that travel well. The quieter the better.

Rabbits- Rabbits are great for dual stimulation. I have a few favorites.

Cock Rings- The right ring can prolong orgasm (for him) and add pleasure.

Wands- These are a great investment.

  • Hitachi (I haven’t reviewed this yet either, but it is a sex toy every girl should have)
  • Transcend Flexing Massager
  • Smart Wand (I have heard the large is better, I liked the medium enough to recommend it)

Dildos- Just the ones I love the most!

Other stuff that I use a lot.

If you decide to get something using one of the links in my reviews or one of the links on the right, I would be truly grateful. Happy Shopping!

P-Spot Play and Massage

The month of November is prostate cancer awareness month. Movember is a moment meant to raise awareness of prostate cancer and other male cancer and associated charities. You can register over at and then just let your mustache grow showing the world you care about men’s health. Miguel already has a mustache, so we aren’t really participating. While I am on the subject of men’s health, I thought I might use this opportunity to talk about prostate play. There is a reason there are so many toys made specifically for prostate play. Don’t neglect your prostate! There are actually two ways to massage the p-spot.

  1. External massage requires only to massage the perineum (the area between the scrotum and anus). The external massaging of this area during a blow job will enhance the sensation and stimulate the external prostate. This is great for a man that is too intimidated to try internal massage.
  2. Internal massage not only feels wonderful, but it also helps to release the toxins stored inside of the prostate. In fact, doctors recommend prostate milking for any guy who has issues with their prostate, or wants to avoid issues in the future.

Anatomical aspects:

The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located between the bladder and the penis. The prostate is just in front of the rectum. The prostate secretes fluid that nourishes and protects sperm. During ejaculation, the prostate squeezes this fluid into the urethra, and it’s expelled with sperm as semen. Men with enlarged prostates have a hard time releasing urine through the urethra since it also goes through the prostate. After the age of 50 virtually ALL men have BPH (benign prostate hyperplasia). Not to scare anyone, but for most guys it is just a matter of when they will experience BPH. Prostate massage is useful for prostatitis, and inflammation of the prostate caused by blocked ducts in the prostate gland. It is not for acute prostatitis, because it could be dangerous.

Highly Recommended Prostate Toys:



Rocks Off Limited



Lux Male (BMS Enterprises)



Once you get your toy all picked out, get yourself,(or your partner), into a comfortable position. Get some lube on the head of the massager and slowly rub it on the anus. Try external prostate massage to help relax the sphincter muscles. Once it relaxes slowly slide it in. You can pair this with a hand job or blow job for extra fun. His response will probably be, “Best orgasm ever!”

Most men that have tried prostate massage will tell you that it produces some of the strongest orgasms they have ever felt.

Some men find that vibrations are too intense for initial prostate massage. I suggest starting off with something not vibrating for first contact. Prostate massage can also be done manually. Just lube up a finger and slide it in. Feel for the “bulb” towards the front of the body about 1″ above the sphincter and then stroke it in a “come here” motion, (be sure that your nails are trimmed). Sounds a bit similar to the g-spot for women right?

Once you establish that you have correctly located the prostate you can explore vibrations and various pressures to achieve the desired stimulation.

Obviously, once a man has explored prostate massage and fells it’s awesome power he will be more open to it. The Get-a-Grip prostate massager(by evolved) is one of my favorites because is small and non-threatening. It is thinner than the width of a finger and it won’t get accidentally turned around during play. This toy is pretty inexpensive as well, so if you (or your partner) hate it, you won’t have thrown out a bunch on money. It can be used with a partner or solo. I recently reviewed the Helix Syn (aneros) and found this manual toy to provide excellent p-spot massage. The other toys lines I suggested are recommendations from fellow reviewers.

What is really great about some toys is that it also consider the external perineum. The external perineum is located between the scrotum and the anus. Do not think that this erogenous area on the male anatomy should be ignored. A firm knuckle or two finger massage on the sensitive area between the anus and scrotum will enhance a hand job or blow job and help take his orgasm to the next level.

Lending a Hand


Last weekend Miguel and I went out to a swinger gathering. As usual, when we hit this type of venue, Miguel had several couples lined up that we were going to meet in person. Some of them for the first time after chatting online for months. The turn out at the venue wasn’t that impressive. We were one of the first couples to arrive and one of the last to leave. At the last moment a couple invited us back to their hotel for some after party fun. We were more than happy to oblige.

We got the hotel and they offered us drinks. It seems they were prepared for fun. The room was pretty nice with a separate sitting room and a king sized bed in the bedroom. Miguel found a great way to break the ice and whipped out the blindfold. We blindfolded her and I helped her out of her clothes. I led her over to the bed and had her lie back. I took off my corset top and kissed her. I tweaked her nipples and then her husband handed me some toys to play on her with. A bullet for her clit and a slim vibrator for her pussy. I rubbed the bullet all over her clit and slowly eased the vibrator into her. I am usually more oral, but this couple was a soft swap. I didn’t want to ruin everything by going too far. We hadn’t discussed if she was interested in playing with me, just that they weren’t interested in a full swap. I looked for cues that she was enjoying herself. She was very wet but almost silent as I played. Her man took pictures of the action. Miguel got up on the bed by her head and held her arms while I worked on getting her off. After a while I grabbed her hand so she could control the amount of pressure of the bullet and I handed the vibrator to her man. I took off my skirt and panties and got my own vibrators out. I stretched out next to her to work on getting myself off while her man and Miguel watched. We fucked like animals after that. It was a great night.


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Sinful Sunday

A Swinging Good Time


I had such a good time Monday night out with another swinging couple. Things just clicked with this couple. J and K are great hosts and they made us feel right at home with them. We have met this couple on two other previous occasions, both times I was out of commission. Monday night I had no such issues and I knew going in that we were going to have a sexy fun time.

I brought with me a bag of toys, as I usually do when there is any kind of attraction between me and the female. K is a smokin hot vixen with long blond hair and a very sexy body. J is equally sexy and I couldn’t wait to fuck them both. After a drink and little small talk we all went into the bedroom. I stripped off my clothes and pulled out a strap-on and inserted the Fuze Wilde. I approached K and we made out standing up. My black silicone cock awkwardly hanging between us, the guys were behind us on either side of the room just watching. I explored her mouth with mine and my hands found her nipples and eventually my fingers wondered down to her pussy. I am a bit picky about women, this girl I could hardly wait to lick.

I maneuvered her over to the bed and I got on my knees between her legs. I licked her slit and sucked her clitoris before inserting two fingers. I instructed Miguel to get the lube out of the bag. I slathered my cock up and inserted it into her pussy. She responded with a moan as I reached under to turn on the vibrator. The Fuze’s flat base buzzed away on my clitoris and labia as I fucked her. The guys moved in closer. J laid back on the bed beside us and Miguel stood next to us on the other side. I fucked her for a few minutes and then J suggested she turn around so she could could suck his cock as I fucked her. I grabbed her hips and fucked her doggy style. I can see the allure for guys fucking doggy style. Her ass looked so good and her hips gave me something to hold on to as I tried to thrust into her. I grew frustrated after a few minutes though. I didn’t get the pleasure of the cock being thrust into me and I wet and ready for a good fucking. I took off the strap-on and she redirected her attention to Miguel while I took my place sucking J’s cock.

There wasn’t any awkwardness in this hook up. We all fucked and sucked each other. It was hot being there and it still makes me wet when I think about it. At some point, She and I were both on the bed on our backs next to each other. Miguel was fucking her and J eating my pussy, she sucked on my nipple and we made out. I was drenched at this point and J fucked me till we were a sweaty mess. She got some of my toys out to fuck me with them while the guys rested. J took a little break while I sucked his cock on my knees while she fucked me with the Tsunami? Miguel sucked her pussy while she worked the toys on me. The silicone cock filled my hole and worked my g-spot. She turned her focus back on Miguel and J put on a fresh condom on. I rode his cock really enjoying the view next to us as Miguel fucked her doggy style until she wore him out. I was a dripping mess having cum more times than I can count. J’s cock slide around inside of me and we fucked until I had to stop. I laid back on the bed and caught Miguel removing the condom so she could sucked him off again. She worked her mouth on his cock until Miguel came, she swallowed it all. I worked the Fresh on my clit as I watched and she came back over to me. She used a glass toy to fuck me. The cool glass felt so soothing to my now thoroughly fucked hole. J sat next to us to watch and encourage her to fuck me. After I came really hard we both focus on J’s cock. She got mouth full of cum and she then she kissed me. Her mouth was full of his cum so I got a good taste. I remarked on how much how much his cum tastes like Miguel’s and she agreed, their cum was tasted almost exactly the same.

I actually had some more firsts with this swap. First time I swapped cum with another girl, first time I fucked a girl doggy style with a strap-on, first time I used so many toys in one sex session, first time I came so many times with another couple. It was a really good time. I actually brought my stripper pole with me as well, but we didn’t get a chance to break it out. We also talked about getting some photos. Maybe next time….