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An Open Book -My Life In Chapters



This week the TMI Tuesday blog had a fun challenge. I accept. I was really excited about this particular TMI because I have often thought about writing out my story. I broke it up into lessons. I was going to write out the years, but they don’t describe the lessons as much. Some lessons had to go back and be repeated. I want to share my story because I know some of you can relate. This is just a fun little snippet.


If your life were a book, what would the parts or chapters be titled?


Chapter 1- The Abuse. 

I wish it could start out happy. It didn’t so I can’t. My childhood was full of scars. Death and abuse marred my innocence. I learned not to rely on people to save me. I ran into a theme of loss and abuse over the years, but I eventually was able to break the cycle. This painful chapter would give you a clue about my survival.

Chapter 2- The Rebellion.

This is where I put my stubborn pride and things I did selfishly. I wanted to show the world I wasn’t afraid. This part of my life was also pretty painful but I learned more control. I hurt people who loved me but I also learned to be selfish enough to cut painful things out of my life. My shameful secrets would be here, some had no purpose.

Chapter 3- The Miracles. 

These segments get a whole chapter because my whole world changed. My focus shifted from self preservation to self sacrifice. I dodged more than a few bullets in my life. I have witnessed miracles and some years I spent in complete awe of how close it was. My self-confidence came from here. Surprise that it could happen to me, and then again why not me?

Chapter 4- The Love.

I have loved foolishly and in marriage. I have loved without hope of reciprocation. I have loved faithfully and in secret. I have loved in sin. I can’t regret any of these because they proved that I am very capable and worthy of true love. I looked in all the wrong places. When I finally decided to set parameters I found someone worthy of the best and worst of me.

Chapter 5- Vindication.

I am a survivor. I have lived through good and bad things. I have overcome shame and self-doubt. Like a phoenix from the ashes I rise again and again. I have reached unimaginable goals. Actually, I have reached every goal I set for myself. Even surprising myself at times. I didn’t quit even when things quit on me. I am proud of the person I am and the freedom from my past I have achieved. I have every right to believe that the best is still yet to come!


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Another TMI Tuesday installment:

1. Do you write/manage another blog?

I don’t. I have thought about starting something more vanilla. I even considered doing something with my oldest child to help her explore her writing, but I really don’t have the time it would take to make it successful.

2. Pick 3 random blogs from your blogroll and tell us why they are on your blog roll.

Hey Epiphora- I am borderline obsessed with this blogger. She writes very snarky reviews, she’s opinionated and real. Her site is clean and easy to navigate. Her reviews are humorous and well written. If you have never read Epiphora I highly recommend you give her a look, she is awesome!

BeckandHerKinks -this blogger is someone who participates in lots of Meme’s (like me). Her blog is fairly new, but I am really liking her style. One post will be a review and the next is a sexy picture. It keeps it fresh and interesting.

Journey to the Darkside -this blog is the work of a female/submissive in a TPE couple. Her blog has been going since 2005 and she still finds things to write about almost daily. She is a very sweet girl with a very naughty side. I love chatting with her on twitter, too.

3. Look around your blog, tell us about two pages or links you want us to visit, be sure to provide a link to them in your answer to this question.

First, this page. I have altered this page at least 10x and I would love feedback on it. Is there anything people want to know about, is it TMI?

Second, this page. One of my favorite things about this theme is that it has a site map. I wish people would use it (hint, hint, Miguel!) instead of asking me where to find all the swinger stories and pics. All of the categories are listed so it organizes the posts for you. So you can find exactly what you are looking for. If you want a particular review, go here and search for it.

4. Do you have any unique interests that you have never shared before? What are they?

I am pretty open with my interests. I have blogged or at least mentioned my interests: reading, garbage television, the occult, sex, sex toys, writing…oh wait there is one. (see next question)

5. What’s your current obsession?

Miguel and I recently purchased guns. (A Taurus Gen2 .45 and a Walther PPQ 9mm respectively.) I have thought about making a video review of my new weapon. Miguel used to be a cop, and we were both in the military but still, do I know enough to make a quality review? I don’t know, but I think I want to try. It looks like they need more of a female perspective in gun reviews. I really do enjoy going to the gun range. It has become my new stress relief!

Bonus: Has blogging helped or hurt your sex life?

I think it has helped my sex life. I doubt we would have ever experienced prostate play if it wasn’t for reviewing sex toys. Also, cock rings and clitoral toys galore. I might still be masturbating in secret if it wasn’t for this blog.

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TMI Tuesday -Comfort and Thrill of Sex

1. How do you feel about giving anal sex (penetration with penis, finger or sex toys)?

a. I love it.

b. I enjoy it.

c. I’m ok with it.

d. I don’t really enjoy it.

e. I don’t enjoy it at all.

f. I have never given anal sex.

g. I have never given anal sex, but would like to start.

I enjoy anal play with Miguel. It is something I wouldn’t give to just anyone.

2. How do you feel about receiving anal sex (penetration with penis, finger or sex toys)?

a. I love it.

b. I enjoy it.

c. I’m ok with it.

d. I don’t enjoy it at all.

e. I have never received anal sex.

f. I have never received anal sex, but would like to start.

A little bit of anal play is fun and I love it. I don’t allow random playmates to go there with me. Full on anal with toys or anything more than a finger is something I only trust to Miguel.

3. How do you feel about getting undressed in front of a new lover, for the first time, as he/she watches you?

a. It’s a turn on for me.

b. It turns me on a little bit.

c. I like it, but only because it gets him/her going.

d. It does nothing for me.

e. I don’t like doing it because I am shy.

f. I don’t like doing it because I think it’s immoral/improper.

I am not as shy as I used to be…

4. Do you express your sexual pleasure with moans, groans, sighs, and other noises (provided that you are actually turned on)?

a. Yes, each time I have sex (90-100% of the time).

b. Yes, on most occasions (70-89% of the time).

c. Yes, on some occasions (40-69% of the time).

d. Yes, on a few occasions (10-39% of the time).

e. Yes, but only on special occasions (1-9% of the time).

f. Never, not even when I am really turned on.

The noise of sex is such a turn on. I have had silent sex before and it can be sexy, trying to be quiet hoping not to get caught or whatever. But being able to express to my partner that I am enjoying it by letting out whatever feels good, that is just damn sexy. On the other hand, it is such a turn off to hear someone forcing sex sounds (think corny porn).

5. Do you talk to your partner in a sexually explicit way?

a. Talking dirty is one of our favorite activities.

b. Occasionally, I like to talk dirty with my partner, and I do it with ease.

c. I talk dirty with my partner, but it feels awkward.

d. I would like to talk dirty with my partner, but I don’t dare for fear of being judged or ridiculed.

e. I would like to talk dirty with my partner, but she/he isn’t into it.

f. I don’t talk in such a way because I think it is inappropriate.

g. I don’t talk in such a way because I can’t bring myself to do it.

It is such a turn on to hear Miguel talk dirty to me. I get turned on talking dirty to him as well.

6. What kind of animal do you most sound like when building to a climax?

a. quiet little mouse

b. low moaning wolf

c. screeching beluga whale

I don’t think this question had nearly enough options.

Bonus: Which do you prefer comfort sex or thrill-seeking sex? Why?

Obviously, I love thrill-seeking sex. Regular readers of my blog already knew that. As a swinger, I get plenty of thrill sex to keep me happy. Comfort sex is awesome, but while we are young we are going more for the thrill of sex than the comfort of it!

Comfort seekers value deep intimacy, quiet engagement and trust over time of familiar relationships. For them sex is best as a safe, loving nurturing space.*
Thrill seekers value wild energy, adventure and novelty; they are willing to try open relationships, testing themselves outside average sexual practices. These folks crave a place to push the boundaries of new experiences.*

*Adapted from Susan Mernit’s blog

It’s just a fantasy -TMI Tuesday

1. If your lover was turned on by forced feminization would you participate (giving or receiving)?

2. When you have sexual dreams or fantasies that are aggressive or cruel, does it worry you?

I don’t have dreams that are aggressive or cruel, so I can’t say for certain. I don’t know if I could be dominant. I would like to, I think about it a lot but it doesn’t seem to be something Miguel would be interested in. My fantasies are all about Miguel dominating and me enjoying the show.

3. Tell us your hottest filthiest fantasy, right now, in 100 words or less.
This is the fantasy about your desires that you probably never share, maybe they even go against your morals, or are societal taboos.

Right now my filthiest fantasy involves forced feminization. I would love to find a nice manly guy and dress him like a girl. Then make him suck Miguel’s cock while I watch. I would love to see Miguel fucking his face and him on his knees gagging on it. Then I want to watch this guy getting reamed anally by Miguel while I masturbate just out of reach. I fantasize about Miguel looking me in the eye while he fucks this guy. In my fantasy the guy cums while Miguel fucks him.

4. Which super hero would you like to have sex with? Why?
a. Aquaman
b. Superman
c. Wonder Woman
d. She-Ra

C. She-Ra was not violent enough and Aquaman is probably into water-sports. I don’t like the Clark Kent personality of Superman. I would pick the amazonian princess Wonder Woman. I bet she likes it rough!

5. Knowing there’s a hot young couple in the adjoining hotel room, would you press your ear against the wall to hear the action on the other side?

No. If I want porn I just go on the internet.

6. Do you think the lure to live out sexual fantasies or have sex frequently is amplified by technology? Briefly explain.

Technology has certainly added to my sex life and helped spawned some new fantasies. With the addition of sex toys I can get off with or without my lover. The internet has become a part of our sex lives as we meet lots of new couples on it and learn about social functions with like minded couples. I am sure it would be much harder to find people like us without the internet. Also, watching porn and reading about other people’s experiences has helped to broaden my scope of sexy when I see or read about something new that turns me on. Technology for me means I can have/get sex at the click of a mouse or button. I think it is amplified by technology, but I don’t think it is a bad thing.

Bonus: Describe your fantasy life in three (3) words.

Sexy rough exhibition


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