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I hopped over to my blogroll last week and went through each link one by one. Some of the links I found were a bit out of date, not being blogged on recently. Some lead me to other things. I found myself on a blog call Vagina Antics. I have been there before and it always good stuff. The blog is run by a duo of vagina rockstars Nikki Blue and Heather Cole. I actually spent a lot of time on this blog last week and decided it must be on my blogroll for my readers to discover. Also, I want everything these chicks blog about in my e-mail from now on!

The reason I bring them up specifically here is because I found on there so much about sex positivity and embracing oneself. I lost a good bit of time reading through the archives. They have a project going on right now called the wall of hearts. It is a collection of body parts that people have deemed their favorite thing about themselves. I fucking love this idea. I submitted a little something. It wasn’t as perfect as I had envisioned it. I have picture taking issues and this was a self shot. I wanted to submit more, because I have lots of parts I heart on my body.

But anyways, it felt awesome to think about my absolute favorite thing about me for a few minutes. It boosted my ego, (as big as it may seem it could always use a little extra stroking from time to time). It was cool to see other people’s favorite bits. I wanted to share the link with you guys so you could check it out and maybe even submit your own favorite part. Click on the picture below to go there.

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Silicone Butterfly Miss


The good folks over at Cal Exotics sent me the Silicone Butterfly Kiss this month as part of the Sexpert program. This is the silicone version of their world famous number one selling butterfly. Unfortunately, I hate this thing. I have heard all the rave reviews and I was really excited to get it. But this toy was so far from what I imagined, I am not even sure where to start.


Materials: Silicone (massager) & ABS (cap)

Dimensions: 7″ x 1.25″ (2.75″ insertable)


Silicone Butterfly Kiss

To be fair, let me mention the good points before I dissect this toy and tell you why I hate it. It is made of body safe silicone. Prior versions of the Butterfly Kiss were made of jelly or TPR, which are inferior materials to silicone. This version is a much highly quality material for about the same price as the original. The Butterfly Kiss is waterproof, which is always nice. If you have a low or shallow g-spot this might provide enough stimulation for you. The pop of the bulbous head might be just the thing for you. If you have a thin labia or a clitoris that protrudes (prior to stimulation), this toy might be a great fit. Those little antenna might be enough to send you over the edge. Also, it has a good price point at less than $30 retail.



This toy has two motors, one in the shaft and one on the butterfly shaped clitoral portion. I had no idea this thing had two motors. It takes 2 AAA batteries for power. Granted, that won’t give me a lot of power, but the silicone of this toy absorbs so much of the vibrations on the butterfly it was ridiculous. I have an expectation that a rabbit style vibe will deliver vibrations (or something) to the clitoris, this vibe didn’t.

The butterfly was clearly meant to deliver something awesome. The wings of this butterfly are meant to rest on either side of the labia while the antenna tickle the clitoris. The body of this butterfly could provide deep rumbly vibes when pressure is applied, but it doesn’t. The antenna are really flimsy and don’t carry vibrations like they should. I tried applying pressure with the butterfly on my clitoris but it has a dip between the wings, where the body is, that just doesn’t allow me to get good pressure there either. My best bet was to totally smash this thing into my labia and pray the vibrations would travel to my clitoris. I found this vibe’s butterfly really frustrating. I am about medium, if you are a bigger girl, (or have bigger labia) forget getting this vibe to hit the clitoris. It can’t. Also, the butterfly portion has visible imperfections in the mold. It looked cheap.

Silicone Butterfly Kiss

Silicone Butterfly Kiss


It looks kinda cute. I could see what they were going for. The shaft is short with a bulbous head. The shaft vibrates. Lots of woman love a bulbous head that provides a pop. Some may love a bulbous head with vibrations like the ones the Silicone Butterfly Kiss provides. I wanted more. I wanted the bulbous head to hit my g-spot. I looked at this toy and thought that the head is meant to provide pressure and vibrations on the g-spot. The problem is that it doesn’t. For me at least. It doesn’t provide good pressure for g-spot. I’m sorry, but it has to be said. This thing couldn’t possibly hit my g-spot right. I need pressure. I need firm pressure for g-spot orgasms. The thin shaft is just too flimsy.

The base unscrews to reveal the battery compartment. On the very bottom of the toy is the one button, which is used to turn it on and scroll through the speeds. The button makes an audible click when it is depressed. It has three speeds. Just three. Loud, louder, and loudest. The noise this toy emitted was distracting. I absolutely hate loud toys. A loud toy that can’t distract me enough with it’s vibrations is unforgivable. This toy can be heard through a closed door, down the hallway, into the next room when it is on high. Use it when you are alone, or with a partner who doesn’t mind the noise.

The vibrations on the shaft were actually pretty powerful. The saving grace with this toy is that the shaft’s bulbous head could be used to stimulate the clitoris or it could be used internally, whichever you prefer. I wish this thing would have worked for me, but it didn’t.


The Silicone Butterfly Kiss can be cleaned with soap and water or a sex toy cleaner. It is waterproof so at least clean-up is easy. If you decide to try this toy, use only water-based lubrication. The box it came in said Silicone Butterfly Kiss and had a big picture of the toy. It is not very discreet but it is small enough to be used for storage. The Silicone Butterfly Kiss can be purchased at HedoVibes.

Review Summary
1 being weak, 5 being earth shattering.
The volume of the toy on it’s highest setting.
Material Safety.
Value of toy for the price.

I received this product free of charge in exchange for an honest review. This post contains affiliate links. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.

©KissinBlueKaren 2010-2014



Lovehoney Flash USB Mini


I have been getting a lot of clitoral vibrators lately. I love this since it lets me do a quick compare of features with toys still very fresh in my mind. I also love getting new clitoral vibrators! Of the last three clitoral vibrators I have received, this is my favorite!

The Lovehoney Flash USB Mini is a nice clitoral vibe that is waterproof. It has lots of speeds and a cute little package. Also it charges really easily from my laptop, which is good because I am on my laptop a lot.


Materials: Silicone

Dimensions: 3.75″ x 0.5″



I was really excited to get this vibe. Waterproof and charges by USB? I’m in! I had to have it. The base comes off of the tip at the metal in the middle. It opens to reveal the USB, which actually comes out of the base. The top has the receiving end. There is small waterproof ring that keeps this vibe dry inside even when under water. I don’t know how this is possible, but it is. I tried this vibe completely submerged and it stayed dry inside. Being waterproof makes this vibe easy to clean with soap and water or a sex toy cleaner.

Lovehoney Flash USB Mini


The silicone of this toy has a bit of drag. It is also a bit of a lint magnet. Unfortunately, it did not come with a storage pouch. The tip is angled and rounded off. It has flexibility. The silicone is only compatible with water-based lubrication. A little drop goes a long way on this toy. The base is much firmer silicone and square. The metal in the middle has the Lovehoney logo heart on the opposite side of the button.

Lovehoney Flash USB Mini


I am happy to tell you that this vibe has a strong buzzy vibrations and plenty of variety. The vibrations are much less on the base. The tip carries an almost obscene amount of vibrations. This is gonna sound crazy, but the vibrations feel almost electric. It is something very stimulating, but may be too intense for some.

It offers 3 speeds and 4 patterns. Due to the frequency of vibrations I have to mention vibrations on the handle. The handle has less vibrations than the tip, but the vibrations are powerfully buzzy, even on the handle. The Lovehoney Flash USB Mini has one button which is used to turn it on and off and scroll through the patterns. It is almost flush with the handle and doesn’t get in the way. You will have to hold it down for like 10 seconds to turn it off but it is so quiet I don’t see that as being a problem. The button response is not always consistent. Sometimes I depress the button to turn it on and it doesn’t respond. This is definitely because I do not apply the right amount of pressure to the button. Sometimes this is a bit frustrating. *I have to weigh this minor frustration against the price, which is much lower than I would have thought. It always eventually turns on after a couple tries, so for now I am going to write this off as a minor imperfection.* The button lights up, very dimly, when it is depressed. It blinks when it is charging and glows steady when it has a full charge. The light is so dim I have to cup my hand around it to see for sure. I guess it would be easy to see in the dark, but I use my laptop in a lit room. A full charge gives up to 3 hours of playtime. When the battery is low it will flash a dim red light behind the button.

Lovehoney Flash USB Mini

Oh my god! I didn’t even mention how damn quiet it is. It is almost silent. I love, love, love this vibe!

This vibe has a longish handle and is curved to fit my anatomy. It is slim enough to fit between bodies during intercourse. It could be used for shallow vaginal play, but it is not really designed to be used like that. I love to feel it on my labia and nipples as a bit of a teaser before going right to my clitoris. I have been using this vibe a whole lot since I got it for review. I find it so easy to charge and convenient. I like to patterns more for building up and then I switch it to full power to bring me to explosive orgasms.

Lovehoney Flash USB Mini

The packaging for this vibe was a paper box. The toy came nestled in plastic and it also had a small paper leaflet with some suggestions:

Trail the tip of the vibrator along the inside of your thighs, across your stomach and onto your outer labia before gently pressing the flexible tip against your clitoris. This is a great way to get used to the sensation of the vibrations against your sensitive spot and build yourself up to a powerful, satisfying orgasm.

Lovehoney Flash USB Mini


The Lovehoney USB Flash Mini is a Lovehoney exclusive, but it comes at a shocking low price! Also, everything at Lovehoney ships free and comes with a 100 day return policy…that is just in case you don’t love it.

Meet the new Flash USB Rechargeable Mini Vibrator from Lovehoney!



Review Summary
1 being weak, 5 being earth shattering.
The volume of the toy on it’s highest setting.
Material Safety.
Value of toy for the price.

I received this product free of charge in exchange for an honest review. This post contains affiliate links. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.

©KissinBlueKaren 2010-2013

Posh Pocket Toyfriend



The Posh Pocket Toyfriend is a small discreet clitoral vibe. I had high hopes for the Posh Pocket Toyfriend. I really liked the shape of this vibe and thought it would be as fun for me as the Foxy Toyfriend was. Hello shallow buzzy clitoral vibrations in a pocket sized toy…

Materials: Silicone and ABS Plastic

Dimensions: 3.5″ x .75″




I wanted to like this toy. The shape is nice for holding flat on the clitoris (or other body part) or turning on it’s side for more pin point vibrations. The Posh Pocket Toyfriend is not a powerhouse toy. Pushing it hard where I want the vibrations does not really help, unfortunately. It really only results in smashed buzzy vibrations, but not stronger. Lightly placing it were I want vibrations makes me want more. Then I am all like, I want more! Where are my other clitoral toys? My clit is so spoiled. Using this during sex is do-able because it is small and fits nice between bodies. Regrettably, I get so distracted with other sensations that the Posh Toyfriend fades into the background and I am left using the shape to strum my clit with it’s hook-like lip.

Posh is a discreet pocket clitoral vibrator. I think the extra silicone around the head of the tip, the hook type lip, does this toy an injustice. Silicone is not the best vibration conductor and thick hard-ish silicone like on the Posh is even worse. That coupled with the AAA battery for power and we get a vibe that isn’t quite strong enough. I liked the Foxy Toyfriend, it was adequate, but the Posh doesn’t work the same way for me. It is quiet, waterproof, easy to use and has a great shape. I am not sure what else I could ask for…oh wait, a bit more power? Ya, just a bit (or a lot) more power and I would love this toy, instead of just kinda liking it. As it is, I think is an okay toy. But not quite enough for me to make this my go to. This toy frustrated me with it’s almost enough vibrations. Just like the Foxy, it is a tickler and meant to get you started, not really finish you off. It even says so on the side!




So the Posh is made of body safe silicone and plastic. It is easy to clean with soap and water or a sex toy cleaner. It is submersible, so feel free to take it in the shower, bath, or pool. The silicone is smooth and hard. Really no give at all in the material. The base is made of shiny, smooth plastic. The base screws off to reveal the battery compartment. The Posh is so quiet I can barely hear it at all. It is quieter than a cell phone on vibrate. Oh yea, and it takes 1 AAA battery for power. The battery slides in easy. The battery is loose in the compartment but does not vibrate noisily against the plastic. I am not sure how this is possible.  I sure wish Toyfriend would tell some other companies how they did this.




The Posh has a slide lock for the battery which also serves as the turn on/off function. The unfortunate thing about that is that I can never remember which way to turn the base to turn it on and half the time I turn it and the base comes loose instead of turning on. Also, if you put it on with the arrow on the other side of the cap, not where the on/off words are, it will not turn on at all. Making you think that the battery is dead. Sending you on a battery hunt when all you wanna do is play with your toy. Then come to find out you had the cap on backwards… oops! More idiot proof please.

In this picture the arrow is not on the black silicone top, letting you know I had the cap on backwards.



It only has one speed. I would rate it as a 2.5/5. It is not really strong, but some woman may find this is quite enough…a few…like a small percentage of woman probably…the ones who get off on a cell phone vibrations…the ones who don’t know the difference between AA battery power and AAA battery vibrations. Anyways, it is buzzy. Quiet and buzzy.

Also, the box is kinda cute. It is a bit informative and not discreet. The box is a bit playful and fun looking. It comes with the toy nestles in plastic and a small leaflet about care and maintenance. No storage pouch. This toy could probably use one too since it is small enough to loose if you drop it in your big ass luggage sized purse, or your draw full of un-metionables.




I think this toy would be nice as a first time sex toy. The price is nice and it has some good features. If you hate it you won’t be out a whole lot of money, and if you like it it is a steal at less than $20. If you like light vibrations then this might work for you. Those of you with a clit-o-steel better steer clear of this vibe. The Posh Pocket Toyfriend is available at Lovehoney, the sexual happiness people.


Review Summary
1 being weak, 5 being earth shattering.
The volume of the toy on it’s highest setting.
Material Safety.
Value of toy for the price.

I received this product free of charge in exchange for an honest review. This post contains affiliate links. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.

©KissinBlueKaren 2010-2013

A Special Kind of Crazy


So I am a very jealous lover. I can’t fucking stand it when my Miguel enters a scene when I am not in the room.

I over-reacted to something that wasn’t even a thing. Look, when you have the sort of scars that I do crazy creeps up from time to time. I know Miguel loves me, I know he is faithful but….alcohol and I want to freak out over something that is nothing. I can’t stop the reaction when it happens. I can only apologize for it later. Maybe I can try to recognize it. Let me tell you what happened…

I had last Sunday night off, so we went out. New people, or at least new to us. I was in a really good mood and excited to meet new people. We met them at a bar close to their house. They were really nice and we had a lot in common. They like to drink and they were both smokers, so we sat outside.

We talked and drank and talked. Miguel was the only sober one. The weather got a bit weird with strong gusts of wind and some rain. We almost thought it might be a tornado but then it calmed a bit. We all took that as a cue to move the party so they took us home to their place. They lived about 5 minutes away. I was so revved up in the car that I immediately went to work on trying to get Miguel’s cock out so I could suck it. I love getting his cock out while he drives. I know this is dangerous, but I was very horny. I licked and sucked his cock as best I could until we arrived at their apartment complex.

Once we got to their place we all settled in for more drinks and conversation on their screened-in porch. It was good and fun, we had loads in common. But the ice needed to broken. So, I took off my pants. Then everyone stripped, and we moved into the bedroom. . .

Naked in the bedroom I went to work sucking on the guys cock. Miguel and the girl got tangled up next to us. He was really hard. His cock was long and thin. He asked me to lay back and then he licked and sucked my pussy. I came as he finger fucked me and sucked my clit. A few minutes after I came on his face, he sat up and put a condom on. Miguel put a condom on too. Then we all started fucking. He kissed me a lot while he fucked me. He held me close and pumped his cock in me. I clenched my pussy muscles tight and fucked him back, wanting to feel every inch of cock. It was hot. Miguel and the girl right next to us. He stopped twice to licked her pussy and finger her g-spot hard making her cum loudly, before going right back to fuck her more. The guy pulled out and I sucked his cock. Miguel pulled back after a while from sheer exhaustion and her man moved over to fuck her then. Miguel then moved over and finger fucked me hard while sucking on my clit. I came so hard from him pounding my g-spot. I wanted him to fuck me. He started kinda walking away so I assumed he was done. I shakily walked to the bathroom, still reeling from being fucked and cuming so hard.

I came back to find the guy standing on one side of the bed fucking her. She was laying on her back. Miguel was on the other side with his cock being sucked by the woman, her head hanging back over the bed. Seeing this turned my stomach. He was too tired to fuck me, or so I thought. Now he has his cock in her mouth and she is getting it good. I am admittedly a bit crazy. I know. Jealous when I should have enjoyed the view. I just looked, and I pulled myself out of the situation. Miguel immediately recognized my look, but didn’t understand why. We were done for the night.


So this resulted in what I like to call a “silent storm”. We said our goodbyes and went home. I didn’t talk to him the whole way home. When I finally told him what was bothering me, well he didn’t agree with what I observed. He swears I was sucking the guys cock when he walked in, but to my knowledge he was right there. I completely left the room, even saying I wanted to use the bathroom. Why do I have this issue if we are such a solid couple? Why would I even entertain the thought of jealousy when this is a choice we both made, to swing…together?

Moving forward, I sort of apologized to Miguel. He gets that sometimes I am so crazy I can’t really help it. In the future I probably should but…our little “issue” resulted in some very hot make up sex. Mostly me making up for whatever. The best part is when Miguel takes control of the whole situation. He knows I get out of control, so he takes control…completely. Dominating me and dictating how he will fuck me, when, and what the conditions are. It all starts with me asking him to come home for lunch so we can fuck. Then it leads to collared anal sex with toys and his cock. I am grateful that he gets me. I completely needed him to forgive me.

Next time I will try to behave differently with this sexy couple that I really want to see again. I just had to put it out there. I am a special kind of crazy.


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