I have had this fantasy of pegging a guy for a long time. I think it has been on my fantasy wish life for half of my sex life. Fast forward to my relationship with Miguel and exploring new sexual boundaries. I extent so much trust to him and have just recently asked for reciprocation.
“Babe, I am really interested in anal play. (long pause) For you.”
“Oh! Ummm. (long pause) Okay”
But it really wasn’t okay. I had to take it slow and let him get used to the idea. I had read about the benefits of prostate massage and I really wanted to share that with him. I thought it only fair since he helped me to find my g-spot and all…I knew he was a bit uncomfortable with the idea. He loves it now and asks for it sometimes.
So there are actually two ways to massage the p-spot. There is external massage and internal. External massage requires only to massage the perineum (the area between the scrotum and anus). I had read about this in girly magazines, ‘Tricks on how to drive you man wild’. The external massaging of this area during a blow job is suppose to enhance the sensation. I have never gotten any complaints when I used this technique. This is great for a guy that is too intimidated by internal massage.
Internal massage not only feels wonderful for a guy, but it also helps to release the toxins stored inside of the prostate. In fact doctors recommend prostate milking for any guy who has issues with their prostate, or wants to avoid issues in the future.
The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located between the bladder and the penis. The prostate is just in front of the rectum. The prostate secretes fluid that nourishes and protects sperm. During ejaculation, the prostate squeezes this fluid into the urethra, and it’s expelled with sperm as semen. Men with enlarged prostates have a hard time releasing urine through the urethra since it also goes through the prostate. After the age of 50 virtually ALL men have BPH (benign prostate hyperplasia). Not to scare anyone, but for most guys it is just a matter of when they will experience BPH. Prostate massage is useful for prostatitis, and inflammation of the prostate caused by blocked ducts in the prostate gland. It is not for acute prostitis, because it could be dangerous.
So I went online and bought a few non-threatening prostate massagers. Of course, at first they just sat there. Miguel has the normal reaction to things going into his anus, “Exit only!”. I get him into a comfortable position and get some lube on the head of the massager. Then I slowly rub it on his anus, while I work his erect penis in my mouth. He relaxes and I slowly slide it in. Once I get it into position I can give him a handjob and a prostate massage at the same time. His response, “Best orgasm ever!”. Most men that have tried prostate massage will tell you that it produces some of the strongest orgasms they have ever felt.
Prostate massage can also be done manually. Just lube up a finger and slide it in. Feel for the “bulb” towards the front of the body about 1″ above the sphincter and then stroke it in a “come here” motion, (be sure that your nails are trimmed). Sounds a bit similar to the g-spot for women right? Obviously, once he explored prostate massage and Miguel felts it’s awesome power he became more open to it. Now we have a few toys just for prostate massage that we use. The Get-a-Grip prostate massager is one of our faves and is small and non-threatnting. It is thinner than the width of a finger and it won’t get accidentally turned around during play. It can be used with a partner or solo. What is really great about this inexpensive toy is that it also works the external perineum. Oh and by-the-way, it is on sale right now at Eden Fantasys.
Last night we came home from the club and Miguel enjoyed some prostate massage while I rode him. That is a two-fer folks!
Till next time, keep it sexy!