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I shared my heart

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I hopped over to my blogroll last week and went through each link one by one. Some of the links I found were a bit out of date, not being blogged on recently. Some lead me to other things. I found myself on a blog call Vagina Antics. I have been there before and it always good stuff. The blog is run by a duo of vagina rockstars Nikki Blue and Heather Cole. I actually spent a lot of time on this blog last week and decided it must be on my blogroll for my readers to discover. Also, I want everything these chicks blog about in my e-mail from now on!

The reason I bring them up specifically here is because I found on there so much about sex positivity and embracing oneself. I lost a good bit of time reading through the archives. They have a project going on right now called the wall of hearts. It is a collection of body parts that people have deemed their favorite thing about themselves. I fucking love this idea. I submitted a little something. It wasn’t as perfect as I had envisioned it. I have picture taking issues and this was a self shot. I wanted to submit more, because I have lots of parts I heart on my body.

But anyways, it felt awesome to think about my absolute favorite thing about me for a few minutes. It boosted my ego, (as big as it may seem it could always use a little extra stroking from time to time). It was cool to see other people’s favorite bits. I wanted to share the link with you guys so you could check it out and maybe even submit your own favorite part. Click on the picture below to go there.

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e[lust] #45

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Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust].  Want to be included in e[lust] #46? Start with the newly updated rules, come back May 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

 

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

 

Bringing Toxic Sex Toy Facts Out of the Attic

How Do I Get My Wife to Dominate Me?

I Need This

 

~ Featured Posts (Molly’s Picks) ~

Speaking the unspeakable

#safetytipsforladies

 

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

 

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Easy Come Easy Go: A Look at Orgasm Control
I came before I was ready
Relationships and age difference
PolyAnna’s Musings: Different is Good, Right?
Seriously Proud Queer
Spanking Kink of the Week
How to Be Good in Bed
A Thousand Small Unhappinesses
What’s in a Number?
The Absence ofHow to Tell if a Man is Gay
Stop Shitting on the Bottoms

 

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

It’s Not Misandry, You’re a Douchebag

 

CatalystCon

Catalyst: How it Inspired

 

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Caning: To count or not to count
Slavery and Social Death, by O. Patterson
His Eyes Hungry. His Body Pleads: Use Me!
Toilet Whore
And then, I apologized.

 

Erotic Fiction

Wicked Wednesday: A little bit of confusion
The Moment
Detached
Waxing Lyrical
The “L” word
Gorge
Lolita Twenty-Thirteen, Part Three
Difficult

 

Erotic Non Fiction

Girl on Girl
The Moment I Felt Owned
Tasting Her
Acting on Instructions
Final Cruise
Quickie
A Lazy Sadistic Orgasm
I had 8 days of sex.
An hour together
Cheerful Disappointment
What is Erotic?
The Coin Flip
Playing with Adam
A Trip to the Hardware Store
Fall From Grace

 

 Eroticon

A Somewhat Different Eroticon2013 4~part Post

 

Poetry

The Dark Place

 

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Writer’s Block Sucks

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If I had courage, I would write about all the things that have been on my mind lately. I would tell you about our last hook up and how little sex Miguel and I have had together lately. My courage escapes me. It is almost non-existent these days. I have fear about my fears and I am struggling with keeping my scattered life together right now. I am unhappy with my schedule, but happy about my work. I am distancing myself from those I love and that is painful. I feel alone mostly these days, because I am alone. I am isolated in this life right now.

If I was witty at all, I could write up about the sexy things rolling around in my thoughts. I have sex on my mind, but the words don’t flow right. I feel dry not being able to express my sexuality. I feel disenchanted with toys lately. I want the flesh. I want the closeness of my lover on top of me. The scent of him all over me. It is not for lack of desire. I know we both want to be together, but time and schedules keep us apart.

I have to keep reminding myself it won’t always be like this. Even if it doesn’t change much, it isn’t all bad. But it will change, it has to. When I summon the nerve, I will write about everything. I will tell you about my battle with this silence and how I won.

Once upon a time the only thing that kept me from writing was time. Now the inspiration is not there. Writer’s block sucks.

I am sure I am not alone. As a blogger, I struggle sometimes to say what I mean and keep it interesting. As a sex blogger the shit is even more complicated. Keep it sexy, always. Sometimes it is easier to say what really happened, sometimes I get bored with that. I hit a brick wall this week with my creative writing. It has been too long since I had sexy inspiration. I have been reading other blogs and feeling less than adequate. I started out just looking for inspiration and I did feel inspired to blog something. But then what is it that you want from me? I might change my whole style. Then again I might not. HowToDefeatWritersBlock

I can’t blame blogs entirely. I have been studying a whole lot as well. I have found a new religion in the sciences of the mind and of the world around me. This awareness has me mentally awed at what I am missing. It’s is like finding something new in my backyard. The thing was there the whole time, I just never noticed it. I need to get back to questioning everything. I take so much for granted, even my pattern of thinking. Complacency needs to stop right here, right now. No more faith without absolute proof. No more taking someone’s word for it. Question everything!

Anyways, that is where I am at right now. I am hoping to publish this and send these thoughts out to you. Hopefully it will give me the release I need.

 

Computer Breakdown

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My work schedule has kept me from writing anything useful this week. I used to be less understanding when people told me they had “no time” to blog. The past four days I have enjoyed less than 3 wakeful hours at home. Just to make things worse, one of those precious hours was wasted in “car circles” waiting for little people. I love my little people, but I hate car circles.) So now I get it when people say they have “no time”. I am enjoying a day off right now. I was a bit shocked by the amount of things I found in my e-mail related to my site.

While checking those e-mails on Tuesday, my computer went black. It shut off and decided not to come back on. My Asus died on a Tuesday and there was nothing I could do about it. I am in a serious sweat to try to extract my content from my old hard drive. The fact that I could pull the hard drive out shows me how much I have evolved since I started this blog.

Okay, so Asus has recovered from a virus and held thousands of images and dozens of videos for me. It was witness to various encounters and my place to vent about crazy folks. It was a place I found my socially awkward self a place to be cool in the online world. I was recently diagnosed with a panic disorder. I have to confess that I am actually a socially awkward shy person. People who have met me would probably not believe it. I mask this unflattering world view with alcohol and feigned confidence. I worry about what people actually think of me, although their opinion is really none of my business. I fret over getting all the details of my appearance just right, and I am seldom happy with the outcome. I want to be honest with you, so you know who you are dealing with.

I bought a new laptop, a Sony Vaio. It is a bit of an upgrade since it features Windows 8 and a touchscreen. Windows 8 is totally different. I have been using Windows 7 for a long time. (Please don’t try to talk my into a Mac, I will never go there) I am in the process of recovering pictures and music. I will let you know how it goes.

I got a lot of reviews to do. Loads of contests just ended. I got more giveaways coming up as well… Oh and another website asked me to do a “class” with them next week. It is a Swinger intro class, so I will be answering questions and talking about my experience. I am a bit nervous. I promise to share all my awkwardness here for you to enjoy/laugh at.

I found myself on twitter this week. Trying to get some inspiration and maybe see if anyone else has suffered computer death and lived to tell the tale. I found some nice people who are trying to help me. @DomSigns from Molly’s Daily Kiss. (Yes folks, the #1 blogger from the top 100 sexy blogs 2012) I am so grateful for the time they have taken to try to help me. I am hopeful that I can get some content recovered. If not I guess that is all the more reason to the camera out…

BLOGLAND & TMI Tuesday

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Another TMI Tuesday installment:

1. Do you write/manage another blog?

I don’t. I have thought about starting something more vanilla. I even considered doing something with my oldest child to help her explore her writing, but I really don’t have the time it would take to make it successful.

2. Pick 3 random blogs from your blogroll and tell us why they are on your blog roll.

Hey Epiphora- I am borderline obsessed with this blogger. She writes very snarky reviews, she’s opinionated and real. Her site is clean and easy to navigate. Her reviews are humorous and well written. If you have never read Epiphora I highly recommend you give her a look, she is awesome!

BeckandHerKinks -this blogger is someone who participates in lots of Meme’s (like me). Her blog is fairly new, but I am really liking her style. One post will be a review and the next is a sexy picture. It keeps it fresh and interesting.

Journey to the Darkside -this blog is the work of a female/submissive in a TPE couple. Her blog has been going since 2005 and she still finds things to write about almost daily. She is a very sweet girl with a very naughty side. I love chatting with her on twitter, too.

3. Look around your blog, tell us about two pages or links you want us to visit, be sure to provide a link to them in your answer to this question.

First, this page. I have altered this page at least 10x and I would love feedback on it. Is there anything people want to know about, is it TMI?

Second, this page. One of my favorite things about this theme is that it has a site map. I wish people would use it (hint, hint, Miguel!) instead of asking me where to find all the swinger stories and pics. All of the categories are listed so it organizes the posts for you. So you can find exactly what you are looking for. If you want a particular review, go here and search for it.

4. Do you have any unique interests that you have never shared before? What are they?

I am pretty open with my interests. I have blogged or at least mentioned my interests: reading, garbage television, the occult, sex, sex toys, writing…oh wait there is one. (see next question)

5. What’s your current obsession?

Miguel and I recently purchased guns. (A Taurus Gen2 .45 and a Walther PPQ 9mm respectively.) I have thought about making a video review of my new weapon. Miguel used to be a cop, and we were both in the military but still, do I know enough to make a quality review? I don’t know, but I think I want to try. It looks like they need more of a female perspective in gun reviews. I really do enjoy going to the gun range. It has become my new stress relief!

Bonus: Has blogging helped or hurt your sex life?

I think it has helped my sex life. I doubt we would have ever experienced prostate play if it wasn’t for reviewing sex toys. Also, cock rings and clitoral toys galore. I might still be masturbating in secret if it wasn’t for this blog.

See who else is playing TMI Tuesday.

e[lust] #43

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Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #44? Start with the newly updated rules, come back March 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

P.S. Thank you for your patience while we find our way around here at e[lust] if we have made any mistakes (and surely we have) we will do our best to get it right the next time around.

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

misconceptions of dating polyamorous women

Compromise in D/s relationships

Writing Challenge – The Journey

~ Featured Posts (Molly’s Picks) ~

To shave or not to shave?

Of Human and Whore

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Non-Monogamy and Sex Toys – Safe Sharing Tips

A Man’s Case for Being an Asshole

Thyroid function and sexuality

Property Renewal

SilverHubby: “On Being Fucked by You”

Pain In My Ass

Chivalry

Think Different

Open vs Poly

Escaping the Individual

To shave or not to shave?

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Is your sex toy review breaking the law?

Kink & Fetish

Good Boy

Breathe

Erotic Writing

Take me in

Downpour

A Naughty Nurse Setup!

Afternoon Delight

Sexy Single

Tender is the Night

Butch on Butch

A change of plan

Anal: The Final Frontier

When He Comes In My Mouth

Morning Surprise

Winter

Lolita Twenty-Thirteen, Part One

Simple

My dirty fantasy

Pleasure

The Peace of Wild Things

Camping Conquests

Collar & Lead

Eat Me

Shhh! Come Here!

The End of The World – Almost

Restraints For A Good Girl

Of Human and Whore

Silver Fox, Mynx, and the Hunter – Part VI: Take Two

A Story For Sir