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e[lust] #46

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Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #47? Start with the newly updated rules, come back June 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

 

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Photo courtesy of A Penny for Your Dirty Thoughts

~ This Week�s Top Three Posts ~

How to Shave Your Asshole

Tied and Blindfolded

Why Disney is like BDSM

~ Featured Posts (Molly�s Picks) ~

Because you are so beautiful

Suspension of Disbelief

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

Dildology: The Science of Sex Toys

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the �read more�� tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

The Vagina Thief
The Role of Feelings in Swinging Lifestyle
Why I Feel No Jealousy
Spontaneous
I Asked SilverHubby to Respond to a Comment
Mastering Masturbation in 7 Steps
The One Where I Face Reality

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

The Cycle of Change, Simplified
My IMsL 2013 Keynote

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Kink of the Week #5: Roleplay
How To find (and catch) a Male Submissive
How to be a Good female Sub
The Master’s Voice
Kink of the Week #5: Roleplay
“S&M: The Dark Side of Gay Liberation”, 1975
PolyAnna’s Musings: Choosing Revisited
KOTW-Roleplay: W’s Perspective
Brat-tastic!
Liberating the Fisherman’s Wife
How much realism should be in BDSM erotica?

Erotic Fiction

Sunday Morning
Warehouse 69 Episode 2: The Marquis’ Crop
Sunday Morning
Salivate
Suffer
Bend Over, Bad Kitty!
Dirty Sexy Money
Lolita Twenty-Thirteen, Part Four

Erotic Non Fiction

My First MMF Threesome
That Smile
What Wet Dreams are Made Of…..
A Good Match
I was a Naughty Girl
Jets
Right Here. Now.
I fantasize about blowjobs & being a good girl

Poetry

Things to Wear � NaPoWriMo
Blood Lust
A poem for Rose
Vanishing
Colorless
Subby Space

Blogging

Look at Me!

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Dildology. org -Get Ready For Change

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There is something wrong with the sex toy industry. I didn’t notice it right away. I started reviewing toys and I (like many people) believed what was written on the side of the box. I saw something saying what it is made out of and I believed it. I questioned why some silicone products were smooth while others were tacky but I didn’t think I had anywhere to turn with these questions. The differences to the naked eye on these materials is subtle. Basic sex toy materials include: Silicone, VixSkin Silicone, Silicone/Rubber Mixes, TPE/Elastomer, Jelly Rubber and Phthalates, Hard Materials (hard plastics, acrylics, Lucite, glass, metal, ceramic), TPR (Thermo plastic rubber). The hard part is telling these materials apart. Right now there is no regulating agency that assures that what a company says the materials is and what it really is. That means that a toy company can say something is pure silicone and not even contain silicone. Click here for more about what the regulation really is.

Did you know a sex toy with certain materials can make some people break out, can give people migraines, can cause yeast infections, can make some people sick? Yes, certain toys can be dangerous! Have you heard the stories of toxic toys?

Do you know what a phthalate is or why it is dangerous?

The good news is that you don’t have to know. Hell, to be honest I don’t even want to think about this stuff. As a sex toy reviewer I worry about recommending a product that is safe for you (and me). It really bothers me to hear about someone who bought a toy thinking it was safe, and that it made them sick, that they didn’t know any better.

Thankfully, there are people that care enough to test sex toy materials. There are companies willing to make their toys out of the best materials to keep it safe for play. (check out this post for a list of the companies that offer safe products).  In this day and age there should be a regulating agency making damn sure what we buy is actually made of materials are safe for oral, anal, and vagina consumption. Is that too much to ask? I don’t think so.

Be part of the movement that calls for change!

Dildology.org is a movement for change:

The sex toy industry is on the rise, yet it remains largely unregulated. Dildology.org intends to provide material verification services and maintain a public database of the results, adding transparency and oversight to the industry while educating the public about the science behind pleasure products. We stand on our own, uninfluenced, and we are dedicated to protecting the health and wellbeing of the dildo-loving population at large through education (and maybe a little entertainment).

I am so excited to tell you that Dildology.org will be testing a large range of sex toys and publishing the results so we can know, really know, what the toys are made out of. The first toy they tested was the Jimmyjane Hello Touch, which passed and you can see the results here. The next product they plan to test is the James Deen Realistic dildo from Doc Johnson. From the Dildology.org site:

We will:

  • accept monetary donations.
  • accept product donations from third-party retail stores and wholesalers.
  • purchase products from third-party retail stores.
  • choose products to test based on community feedback.
  • send products to accredited labs for testing.
  • compare the material composition of products to the manufacturers’ claims.
  • share the results of lab tests with manufacturers.
  • record the results of the lab tests in our wiki.
  • make our wiki available to the public.
  • provide other educational resources to the public.

We will not:

  • accept product donations directly from manufacturers.
  • test second-hand products – only those acquired directly from retail stores and wholesalers.
  • test any product manufactured more than one year ago.
  • publish opinions about products or manufacturers – only facts.
  • falsify data, for any reason.
  • suppress or fail to publish the results of any test.

The reason for this post….

Dildology.org needs funds to get started. They are well on their way to the goal of $1500 for start up costs. The actual goal is $20,000, but lets start small. Think BIG, but start small. YOU can be part of this.

The perks for donating:

  • $15- Receive a 15% off coupon code redeemable at SheVibe.com( or 10% of at Lovehoney if you live in the UK or Europe)!
  • $25- Receive lesser reward AND a Dildology spyglass crossbone sticker when we reach our goal!
  • $50- Receive all lesser rewards AND an official DILDOLOGIST t-shirt when we reach our goal!
  • $100 or more- Receive all the lesser rewards and you’ll also be listed on the Dildology.org site publicly as a sponsor! *Plus as a bonus Dangerous Lilly will give you a one-on-one private toy consultation*

Please check out Dangerous Lilly’s post for details about other bloggers who support Dildology.org and details about donating. If you want to donate straight away click the graphic below…

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You don’t have to donate $15, you can donate $2 and still be part of this. if everyone donated even just $2 we would be well on the way to getting manufacturers to take notice and start being honest about their products.

You can also share the cause on social media:

That totally counts and I am sure they will appreciate it very much. Thanks for your consideration!

Together, we are making history in the sex toy industry and together, we WILL create positive change

I shared my heart

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I hopped over to my blogroll last week and went through each link one by one. Some of the links I found were a bit out of date, not being blogged on recently. Some lead me to other things. I found myself on a blog call Vagina Antics. I have been there before and it always good stuff. The blog is run by a duo of vagina rockstars Nikki Blue and Heather Cole. I actually spent a lot of time on this blog last week and decided it must be on my blogroll for my readers to discover. Also, I want everything these chicks blog about in my e-mail from now on!

The reason I bring them up specifically here is because I found on there so much about sex positivity and embracing oneself. I lost a good bit of time reading through the archives. They have a project going on right now called the wall of hearts. It is a collection of body parts that people have deemed their favorite thing about themselves. I fucking love this idea. I submitted a little something. It wasn’t as perfect as I had envisioned it. I have picture taking issues and this was a self shot. I wanted to submit more, because I have lots of parts I heart on my body.

But anyways, it felt awesome to think about my absolute favorite thing about me for a few minutes. It boosted my ego, (as big as it may seem it could always use a little extra stroking from time to time). It was cool to see other people’s favorite bits. I wanted to share the link with you guys so you could check it out and maybe even submit your own favorite part. Click on the picture below to go there.

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e[lust] #45

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Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust].  Want to be included in e[lust] #46? Start with the newly updated rules, come back May 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

 

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

 

Bringing Toxic Sex Toy Facts Out of the Attic

How Do I Get My Wife to Dominate Me?

I Need This

 

~ Featured Posts (Molly’s Picks) ~

Speaking the unspeakable

#safetytipsforladies

 

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

 

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Easy Come Easy Go: A Look at Orgasm Control
I came before I was ready
Relationships and age difference
PolyAnna’s Musings: Different is Good, Right?
Seriously Proud Queer
Spanking Kink of the Week
How to Be Good in Bed
A Thousand Small Unhappinesses
What’s in a Number?
The Absence ofHow to Tell if a Man is Gay
Stop Shitting on the Bottoms

 

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

It’s Not Misandry, You’re a Douchebag

 

CatalystCon

Catalyst: How it Inspired

 

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Caning: To count or not to count
Slavery and Social Death, by O. Patterson
His Eyes Hungry. His Body Pleads: Use Me!
Toilet Whore
And then, I apologized.

 

Erotic Fiction

Wicked Wednesday: A little bit of confusion
The Moment
Detached
Waxing Lyrical
The “L” word
Gorge
Lolita Twenty-Thirteen, Part Three
Difficult

 

Erotic Non Fiction

Girl on Girl
The Moment I Felt Owned
Tasting Her
Acting on Instructions
Final Cruise
Quickie
A Lazy Sadistic Orgasm
I had 8 days of sex.
An hour together
Cheerful Disappointment
What is Erotic?
The Coin Flip
Playing with Adam
A Trip to the Hardware Store
Fall From Grace

 

 Eroticon

A Somewhat Different Eroticon2013 4~part Post

 

Poetry

The Dark Place

 

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Writer’s Block Sucks

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If I had courage, I would write about all the things that have been on my mind lately. I would tell you about our last hook up and how little sex Miguel and I have had together lately. My courage escapes me. It is almost non-existent these days. I have fear about my fears and I am struggling with keeping my scattered life together right now. I am unhappy with my schedule, but happy about my work. I am distancing myself from those I love and that is painful. I feel alone mostly these days, because I am alone. I am isolated in this life right now.

If I was witty at all, I could write up about the sexy things rolling around in my thoughts. I have sex on my mind, but the words don’t flow right. I feel dry not being able to express my sexuality. I feel disenchanted with toys lately. I want the flesh. I want the closeness of my lover on top of me. The scent of him all over me. It is not for lack of desire. I know we both want to be together, but time and schedules keep us apart.

I have to keep reminding myself it won’t always be like this. Even if it doesn’t change much, it isn’t all bad. But it will change, it has to. When I summon the nerve, I will write about everything. I will tell you about my battle with this silence and how I won.

Once upon a time the only thing that kept me from writing was time. Now the inspiration is not there. Writer’s block sucks.

I am sure I am not alone. As a blogger, I struggle sometimes to say what I mean and keep it interesting. As a sex blogger the shit is even more complicated. Keep it sexy, always. Sometimes it is easier to say what really happened, sometimes I get bored with that. I hit a brick wall this week with my creative writing. It has been too long since I had sexy inspiration. I have been reading other blogs and feeling less than adequate. I started out just looking for inspiration and I did feel inspired to blog something. But then what is it that you want from me? I might change my whole style. Then again I might not. HowToDefeatWritersBlock

I can’t blame blogs entirely. I have been studying a whole lot as well. I have found a new religion in the sciences of the mind and of the world around me. This awareness has me mentally awed at what I am missing. It’s is like finding something new in my backyard. The thing was there the whole time, I just never noticed it. I need to get back to questioning everything. I take so much for granted, even my pattern of thinking. Complacency needs to stop right here, right now. No more faith without absolute proof. No more taking someone’s word for it. Question everything!

Anyways, that is where I am at right now. I am hoping to publish this and send these thoughts out to you. Hopefully it will give me the release I need.

 

Computer Breakdown

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My work schedule has kept me from writing anything useful this week. I used to be less understanding when people told me they had “no time” to blog. The past four days I have enjoyed less than 3 wakeful hours at home. Just to make things worse, one of those precious hours was wasted in “car circles” waiting for little people. I love my little people, but I hate car circles.) So now I get it when people say they have “no time”. I am enjoying a day off right now. I was a bit shocked by the amount of things I found in my e-mail related to my site.

While checking those e-mails on Tuesday, my computer went black. It shut off and decided not to come back on. My Asus died on a Tuesday and there was nothing I could do about it. I am in a serious sweat to try to extract my content from my old hard drive. The fact that I could pull the hard drive out shows me how much I have evolved since I started this blog.

Okay, so Asus has recovered from a virus and held thousands of images and dozens of videos for me. It was witness to various encounters and my place to vent about crazy folks. It was a place I found my socially awkward self a place to be cool in the online world. I was recently diagnosed with a panic disorder. I have to confess that I am actually a socially awkward shy person. People who have met me would probably not believe it. I mask this unflattering world view with alcohol and feigned confidence. I worry about what people actually think of me, although their opinion is really none of my business. I fret over getting all the details of my appearance just right, and I am seldom happy with the outcome. I want to be honest with you, so you know who you are dealing with.

I bought a new laptop, a Sony Vaio. It is a bit of an upgrade since it features Windows 8 and a touchscreen. Windows 8 is totally different. I have been using Windows 7 for a long time. (Please don’t try to talk my into a Mac, I will never go there) I am in the process of recovering pictures and music. I will let you know how it goes.

I got a lot of reviews to do. Loads of contests just ended. I got more giveaways coming up as well… Oh and another website asked me to do a “class” with them next week. It is a Swinger intro class, so I will be answering questions and talking about my experience. I am a bit nervous. I promise to share all my awkwardness here for you to enjoy/laugh at.

I found myself on twitter this week. Trying to get some inspiration and maybe see if anyone else has suffered computer death and lived to tell the tale. I found some nice people who are trying to help me. @DomSigns from Molly’s Daily Kiss. (Yes folks, the #1 blogger from the top 100 sexy blogs 2012) I am so grateful for the time they have taken to try to help me. I am hopeful that I can get some content recovered. If not I guess that is all the more reason to the camera out…