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Top Sex Blogger 2012


Thank you so much! I am #48 on the list of the Top Sex Bloggers of 2012!

Thanks to everyone who voted! I am floored that I made the list among such sexy sex bloggers. Thanks to all my stalkers here, on facebook, twitter and in the flesh. Thanks to Rori of betweenmysheets who puts this awesome list together every year. Thanks especially to you for taking the time to read this blog. (I still can’t believe there are more then two of you!)

Please check out the other awesome bloggers who made the list.


1. Molly from Molly’s Daily Kiss @mollysdailykiss
2. EA from Easily Aroused @EasilyAroused
3. Hyacinth Jones from A Dissolute Life Means…
4. Cheeky Minx from Love Hate Sex Cake @LoveHateSexCake
5. Amy from Anal Amy @AnalAmy
6. My Trousers Rolled from My Trousers Rolled @rolledtrousers
7. Sexual Life of a Wife from Sexual Life of a Wife
8. Dark Gracie from Gracie’s Playground @darkgracie
9. diirrty from d i i r r t y
10. nilla from Vanillamom’s Blog @swirlednilla
11. Suggestive Tongue from Suggestive Tongue @Suggestive
12. Sunny Megatron from Sunny Megatron @SunnyMegatron
13. Aisha from Being Aisha
14. Dev from Delving to Deviance
15. Amie Wee from Crevice Canyon @crevicecanyon
16. Remittance Girl from Remittance Girl @remittancegirl
17. Lady Dragonfly from Lady Dragonfly @miladydragonfly
18. paltego from Femdom Resource
19. Bella Blush from Clean, Moral, Polite
20. Girl on the Net from Girl on the Net @girlonthenet
21. Clarisse Thorn from Clarisse Thorn @clarissethorn
22. Kyle Mew from Kyle Mew @kylemmew
23. Violet+Rye from Uncommon Appetites @UCAppetites
24. Mina and Sylvanus from At Longing’s End @mydesire and @sylvanus
25. Athol Kay from Married Man Sex Life
26. Heather and Nikki from Vagina Antics @Heather_Cole1 and @Nikki_Blue1
27. Ferns from Domme Chronicles @Ferns__
28. Conina from Exploring Surrender
29. Kaya from Under His Hand
30. Joan Price from Better Than I Ever Expected @joanprice
31. Dumb Domme from Dumb Domme @DumbDomme
32. Sadie from That’s What Sadie Said
33. Nikki from Nikki True @Thenikkitrue
34. Lucas Brooks from Top To Bottom @Top2Bottom
35. HH and Lo from My Sex Life with Lola
36. Harper Elliot from (It Girl. Rag Doll) @HarperEliot
37. Charlie Glickman from Charlie Glickman @charlieglickman
38. Lady Cheeky from Smut for Smarties @Lady_Cheeky
39. TemptingSweets999 from Tempting Sweets: Story Heat
40. Monocle, Redbud, and Ximena from The Erotic Writer @_Monocle_ and @_Ximena_Writes_
41. Happy BDSM from Happy BDSM
42. Charlie Nox from Charlie Nox @charlienox
43. Theo Black from Theo Black
44. Chrystal Bougon from Bliss Radio
45. Rockin from Light Switch @RockinwithaCock
46. Dr. Marty Klein from Sexual Intelligence @drmartyklein
47. Miranda an Aaron from The Swinger’s Attic
48. Karen from Kissing Blue Karen @kissinbluekaren
49. Axe from Unspeakable Axe @unspeakableaxe
50. Peroxide from Submissive in Seattle @Peroxide__
51. Rachel Rabbit White from Rachel Rabbit White @rabbitwhite
52. Jill McDevitt from A Day in the Life of a Sexologist
53. LS&M from Love, Sex & Marriage
54. Hubman from Hubman’s Hangout @hubman38
55. Coyote’s Kitten from Kitten’s Paw Prints in Slavery @coyoteskitten
56. Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross from Dodson and Ross @dodsonandross
57. Daisy Danger from The True Life Sex Adventures of Daisy Danger @daisydanger
58. Oatmeal Girl from Submission & Metaphor @oatmeal_girl
59. Fatal from You Linger Like a Haunting Refrain
60. Ruby Ryer from Pegging Paradise @Ruby_Ryder
61. Kyle Jones from Butchtastic
62. Anakin and padme from Journey to the Darkside @AnakinDarth and @padmeamidala
63. Lady Pandorah from Lady Panorah’s Sanctuary @ladypandorah
64. Marie Rebelle from Rebel’s Notes @rebelsnotes
65 Thumper from Denying Thumber @thumperMN
66. Jade from Pieces of Jade @piecesofjade
67. Jason Stotts from Erosophia @jstotts
68. BD Swain from Leaning How To Tell You @redswain
69. Bre from Owned, Collared, Loved
70. Dangerous Lilly from This Could Be Dangerous @dangerouslilly
71. Modesty Ablaze from Modesty Ablaze @ablazingmodesty
72. Suzanne from All Mine
73. Kitty from My Secret Life
74. Domina Victoria Rage from Domina Victoria Rage @VictoriaRage
75. Sin from Finding My Submission
76. Maggie Mayhem from Miss Maggie Mahem @msmaggiemayhem
77. Artemisia Absinthium from Absinth Cocktail @ArtiAbsinthium
78. N. Likes from My Dissolute Life @nlikes
79. TheOthers1 from Undue Creativity
80. Roxy from Uncommon Curiosity @sroxy
81. Mollena from The Perverted Negress @Mollena
82. Jerome from Let’s Talk About Sex
83. Liza from Always Each Other @lizawrites
84. Figleaf from Real Adult Sex @talkingfigleaf
85. Red Vinyl Kitty from The Sub Mission @The_Sub_Mission
86. Omega and Mouse from The Power Exchange @talesofmouse
87. Innocent Loverboy from Innocent Loverboy @innocentlb
88. Shelby Cross from Shelby Cross, Writer
89. Blacksilk from Being Blacksilk @BlacksilkBlog
90. Kaleigh Trace from Fucking Facts @TheFuckingFacts
91. Romantic Dominant from A Faded Romantic’s Notebook
92. BiLikesSciFi from A Tale of Bi and Bi
93. Curvaceous Dee from Curvaceous Dee @curvaceousdee
94. Evoe Thorne from My Whole Sex Life @WholeSexLife
95. Ponyboy from Marriage in the Bedroom @Ponyboy0000
96. Jack and Jill from Frisky in the 916 @jackandjillcpl and @jillandjackcpl
97. The Gentle Nibbles Writing Team from Gentle Nibbles @gentlenibbles
98. Kitty from The Submissive Wife
99. Kat from She Makes the Rules

100. YOU! As always, I want to leave a place on this list for ALL the awesome sex bloggers out there! So please leave a comment on Between My Sheets with your name/URL to tell us about your sexy blog!

I highlighted some of my favorites on the list. I wanted to also to contribute some blogs that didn’t make the list for whatever reason, but I would personally recommend.


Rebecca Ammon


Kira’s Slavery

Two of these are pretty new blog sites and didn’t make the list because there was a “age” qualifier. Please go and discover new blogs, comment and let these people know you were there. A lot of work goes in to making an entertaining/aesthetically pleasing place on the web. I don’t know how everyone else does it, but I think about my site on a daily basis. I care about what I put out there and I care about how it is received. My blog is a piece of me, for good or bad. It is really an honor that it was recognized for sexy. Thanks!

Mind Vomit and More

Mind Vomit

I have a virus. I haven’t been this sick in a few years. It started with my youngest daughter and then the rest of the kids seem to be taking turns with the virus until it finally caught up to me. I have been really sick all week. I had a bunch of posts planned (in my head obviously, and not typed out). I know all about scheduling posts folks, I am just not that kind of gal. I will probably never be the planner who has a week’s worth of posts written up and ready to go. In my defense, this means you are not getting my old news either. This is my life….as it is happening.

Last weekend we went to a friends house for a bar-b-que and some vanilla fun. A very nice (and sexy) soft swap couple invited us over. They were very nice hosts until…well, until the alcohol x spades brought out our aggressive personalities. The male portion of this couple and me + alcohol do not mix well.

I have some new affiliations/sponsors for my site. I have been offered products lately and actually had to turn them down. I just don’t have the time, energy, or desire to review shit I am not really excited about anymore. My collection has grown out of hand and I can afford to be picky at this juncture. I got some BDSM items for review coming up. I am really excited to write up about the items.

In the meantime, I would like to mention that I have been trying hard to keep my contests and sex toy sales pages updated. Please check out the links and use the codes. The holidays are coming people, try to win a little something for yourself. I am excited to offer you another chance to win the best harness I have ever played with..the RodeoH. I got a chance to review both the brief style and the boxer style rodeoH and I loved them both. This harness is easy to use and fun too. Click here to enter, ends 12/17. I will be hosting some new giveaways here real soon.


Too Close for Comfort

Have you ever had an experience that after it happened you knew you would never be the same? I just went through something that has made me question everything I know to be true about myself, and my life.

Some things in my life I have taken for granted on a daily basis. That’s over. This stage of my life is over. The blinders are off. I am well aware that life is about change, anyone that doesn’t know that is in for some upsets. I have worn many hats in my life and some of them fit much better than others. This last hat was so uncomfortable, so out of character. I know I am never going to be the same. I walked around shell-shocked that something so seemingly unfair could happen to me. Me!

But really, what the fuck made me think I was so goddamned special that it couldn’t happen to me? In this area of town I am surrounded by poverty, real poverty. Everyday I see people rummaging through the garbage in my alley. This was quite a surprise to me the first time I witnessed it. No shame these rummagers don’t flinch when people pass them by. I can remember thinking, “How bad does it have to be to rummage through the garbage of strangers?”

I have joked about living on the edge with four kids. But really our situation is so precarious. Fragile even. We walk a fine line between real poverty and just barely making ends meet. It all came crashing down last month. Bad luck and a wrong move in this piss poor economy and I couldn’t find a job. The average person is only 2 paychecks away from homelessness. Somehow even being surrounded by poverty I was sure in our situation we were somehow protected. Why? Because I have worn so many hats. Because I have four kids and will never end up going without. Because really nothing this bad has ever happened before.

I was wrong. So fucking wrong.

I am working now. We had to make some real cuts in our lifestyle. Things I took for granted. I should feel shame right now, but I just feel like a survivor. It sucks that no matter what happens with my new job(s) I will never have the security of knowing I can just get another job. (Not that this is what happened last time. I was laid off, no fault of my own.)  I have no shame in my new job, even though I am overqualified. This is probably just temporary.

I realize this may sound really bad, but I am so grateful for this temporary poverty. It has made me realize that even good people who do the right things can end up here. You don’t have to be stupid, or uneducated, or lazy to end up without basic services. You don’t have to burn bridges to end up without a hope for help. It can happen to anyone, even me. Maybe I should lie to people to try to get help, but what does that say about me as a person. How do I tell my kids not to lie when I do it myself. I am more impressed with their resiliency than mine, they count on me to do the right thing. My honesty got us here, but I am holding out hope that it will not be for nothing.

I kinda feel like I can’t go back to just being me. I realize that some of you may be wondering why I would even say anything here about it. Because I need to say it. I can’t pretend that this never happened. I am shell-shocked and things that were really important to me four days ago, are even more precious to me now that I can actually enjoy them again. Right now I am grateful for the electricity I can enjoy inside my house. Six hours into living with no electricity and I was thinking how it sucks that public bathrooms don’t have plugs anymore. I was thinking about places I should ride my bike instead of take the car, just to save on gas. After the first 24 hours it didn’t feel any better, but I realized I am not alone. Reaching out for assistance I encountered agencies that could not keep up with the need for help. It is sad. Worse than I ever thought it would be. Help arrived from an unlikely source on the second day for us from a family member. There are lots of families still waiting.

I was thinking about all of this and now I don’t feel so disgusted when I see those people rummaging through my garbage. How far am I from that? Hopefully really far, hopefully you are too. I am grateful that this was just temporary and not a permanent thing. For many people going without modern conveniences is a reality. I am very grateful, but I don’t think I will ever be the same.

10 Explosive Female Orgasms

[Via: 10 Explosive Female Orgasm Types (Must-Know Info!)]

I found this and had to share it. They forgot the anal orgasm. How many woman are blessed with the ability to achieve even half of these?

…Hey Jealousy!

2012 Best Sex Blogger Nominations

2012 Best Sex Blogger Nominations are open at Between My Sheets. This is a list I would ♥love♥ to see my name on again. If you enjoy reading my blog, please nominate KissinBluekaren to be on this list! Of course I encourage you to vote for your favorites. Rori, of Between My Sheets, will pick the top 100 based on the nominations. There are some consistently sexy blogs that deserve to be on this list, you can nominate as many as you wish. This year is the 5th year of the Top sex Bloggers list so Rori is giving away 5 different sex toys this year. A comment with a nomination gets you a chance to win!

Here are my top picks for 2012 (in no particular order):

  • This blog is consistently sexy. They have been in a TPE relationship for a long time and have been blogging also for a long time. She writes with such honesty, and almost daily, about her life with her master Anakin. There are lots of sexy pics. Padme is always happy to hear from her readers.
  • If case you don’t know about one of the hottest blogs in the UK, please check this blog out! She has a huge following and for good reason. She writes smart about sex and her life as a collared submissive. Molly is so much more than a submissive though check out the blog and you’ll see what I mean.
  • This blog is written by a male artist in a swinging relationship. He doesn’t write any sort of theme but his writing is good and entertaining. He is smart and sexy and talented. All this bleeds into his blog for an entertaining spot on the web.
  • My friend Rebecca is also a swinger in the Tampa Bay area. She writes often on this blog giving advice about the lifestyle. Rebecca is sexy as hell and has a few side projects (the penis parade and the lady bits parade). Her site is entertaining, relevant, and thought provoking.
  • I found this site right after we started swinging and it has a wealth of information for newbies. Most of it is through Q & A with both the male and female answering reader questions. They don’t claim to know everything but they handle topics with honesty and experience of a couple that has been swinging for years.

I didn’t include any of my favorite sex toy reviewers on this list because reviewing sex toys doesn’t necessarily make you a “sex blogger” automatically. Although some of them do write about the adult industry and very smartly. Some of the reviewers never bear anything on the web except their opinions of a product. Of course, this is a completely different style of entertainment that I dabble in sometimes. Some reviewers do it with more style than others. I would have a whole different list if I included sex toy reviewers.

There are very few perks for revealing my sex life on the web. The few comments I receive and being on this list would be thank you enough to continue for another sexy year! I hope you will go and nominate KissinBlueKaren for this Best Sex Bloggers 2012 list. Click here to put in your nomination and get the chance to win one of 5 sex toys courtesy of Between My Sheets.

Thirteen Days of Mind Vomit

Mind Vomit

I was forced to resign from my a job that I absolutely loved. The details are not important at this time. I have been unemployed now for thirteen days. Thirteen days and I have gone through all the stages of grief (denial, bargaining, depression, anger, and finally acceptance). This must have happened for a reason, right?


I still don’t know because it has only been thirteen days.

In these thirteen days I have filled out at least fifty applications. The economy sucks and I don’t want to work nights/weekends. I love my career and I refuse to work somewhere that has a bad reputation for care or where the nurses eat their young. Nurses eat their young. They have done it forever, it is a little known fact. Any nurse will tell you, is she denies it…it is probably her doing the feasting.

~a rant~There are lots of places in the world that people eat their young. I didn’t notice it so much until I was the young. The internet is also full of places that will try to make you feel unwelcome for being new. When I first started my sex blog. I noticed how cruel some people/companies where when I asked them to work with me. I didn’t know some things would be off-limits due to being new. I learned quick! New doesn’t always mean I am trying to take over. Is this self-preservation, that makes someone tear apart something new? Nurses eat their young, but they certainly aren’t the only ones. ~and I’m back to hemostasis~

So too much time on my hands and the thought of having to run into a situation of being feasted upon…I got ambitious. I do this from time to time. This blog is the result of one of my ambitions. I cannot just sit and play computer games all day. I have too many talents that will go to waste. I need money and a way to make it. Where are my talents? HTML, obviously. Sex toys, definitely! I have this ability to see something through. I have this ability to not quit and fade out. My blog was deleted and in one day I had a fresh site full of content.

So I got this idea…


What I want is my own sex toy store. I want a store that carries like everything at low prices. I want a place that I can set up and alter to my liking. I want to be able to give discount whenever I feel like it and not wait for a damned holiday. I want a commission that is fair.


I set this up in my thirteen days at home. I am giving 20% off every order with the code SUMMER

I plan on adding some guides and recommendations to it. Please take advantage of this sale going on. This site has like….well everything. For now…it is up and I am very proud of it. Please give it a look and tell me what you think. Be nice, I am new to this. I could use some honest constructive criticism. It doesn’t have to be full of hate.

(later the same day)

I had a job interview today and I got the job. I can hardly describe the relief I am feeling, knowing I will be able to pay rent next month! I am sure some of you can relate.

I got a new store and a new job and it only took thirteen days.