KissinBlueKaren

Okay Lovelies, it is no big secret that I have been wanting to explore the BDSM lifestyle for a while now. I have my reasons…. starting with a whetting of my appetite by our friends at Blissful Lotus. The problem is that most swingers only dabble into the fetish lifestyle so we haven’t found a nice crossover couple to introduce us around. Something about letting go and letting someone else take control. I get everything I need when I submit. I have come to grips with the fact that a good spanking can take me there. This is pretty delicate, though. After some of our not so great experiences when we started at swinging, I knew we needed some good mentors.

Miguel has been really busy trying to find us a hot spot to “play” (when he isn’t too busy looking for that mythical unicorn, that is!). He found us a club a few weeks ago and we choose last night to go try it out. This place has everything we need to get us going in the right direction. The website was nicely laid out. We still didn’t know exactly what to expect. Honestly, after what happened at the last BDSM club we had very low expectations.

We arrived at the club sober, aware that they didn’t allow drinking on premise. Normally this would have been a deal-breaker but I think we needed to be sober for this. We were greeted at the door by a very friendly sexy couple. There were various displays of whips, floggers and other BDSM gear for aesthetic pleasure and some for sale. The couple seemed totally taken aback that we didn’t have a “sponsor” to the club. Ummm oops! We didn’t know we needed a sponsor! Oh well, then meet with one of the owners and see if you can charm your way into membership. We did, we are now members of a local BDSM club. Details about the club name and location….. (I wanna respect the privacy of the club and its members I wanna talk to the owner before I do this.)

The club itself is like a big dungeon. Half of the club was for play, with various “scene” furniture, (scenes are what they call playtime, I am trying to use the right lingo). The other half of the club had tables and chair and a small kitchen. There was an upstairs loft as well for those that desire a bit of privacy. There were quite a bit of rules, most of them for safety and to keep stupid at bay. These members have a lot of respect for others peoples play, so we felt very safe and welcome. Most of the Subs make food and bring it in to serve their Doms. There was alot of symbolism rules that I was made aware of including what color my cup should be. I guess at a place like this you will want to know right away if you are talking to the Sub or the Dom, so that makes sense.  As luck would have it, it was the owners birthday. We made some small talk and when we met the owner he agreed to do a “scene” with me. The owner, (like everyone except us) had a bit of luggage full of tools. He whipped out two bags and proceeded to tell me all about the variations. I stripped down to my panties and bent over a table (not sure what to call it, it wasn’t a bench it was a 2 tiered table) I was eager to have everything tried out on me! He did a great job of explaining which toys/tools gave me the best pleasure. It is all about sensation and allowing me to go there, to my happy place, while enjoying a great spanking. He had some wonderful tools, and some that were too stingy for me. He rubbed and talked me through everything, I was able to go there. I was so lucky to have this Master working on me, I really enjoyed his techniques. The owner and his Sub had to leave right after that though. Hopefully we will see them again soon!

Another couple was talking to us and they really seemed to enjoy taking us under their wing, if only for the night. They weren’t really a sub/dom couple so much as they were a power play couple. The Dom definitely was not Sub about anything, but she was much too outspoken to be meek in her demeanor. She allows him to play the Dom. That is the best way I could describe this. Totally not like from the owner and his slave. His Sub was owned and meek, a perfect sub type. The whole time he talked to us, she sat quietly by his side. Only when the conversation intentionally shifted to her did she talk. I don’t know if I will ever be that way, I am a Gemini so the urge to take-over the conversation would probably kill me! Right okay moving on…..they agreed to take us upstairs so Miguel could get a feel for the tools. They volunteered me to use them on….yes! I got down to my panties and go strapped to a St. Andrew’s Cross. The cross was not as comfortable as the table. They did alot of talking too. The most surprising thing about the whole experience was how lightly Miguel used the tools on me. He loves me alot and did not want to make it a bad experience. I love him for that. When we came home it was different though, we had rough sex. Miguel grabbed my hair and really took control, I loved it.

We learned so much about the tools.

1. In the BDSM community limp is a good thing. (referring to the flogger folks!)
2. A little refers to a grown up. (cuz they like their bigs alot!)
3. A Dungeon Master has nothing to do with the game Dungeons and Dragons.
4. Leather is something you earn.
5. A dragon’s whip can take me there in 3 smacks.
6. Thud is better than sting.
7. All cats have nine tails.
8. The more surface area the better.
9. A “wrap” is not just a sandwich.

I think the night was a success! I am so glad we became members, so we can go back again soon. I have been trying to find all the people we met on fetlife so I can get more involved in the community. The members there were eager to tell us about all the local events so we can learn more. there is so much we didn’t know. They said there is so much going on in this area….I am sure our weekends will be full of sexy events.