Turning your wife or girlfriend into a swinger?

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I get a lot of guys that ask me if they know what to do to turn their wife or girlfriend into a swinger.  I only know what worked for Miguel on me.  I am a woman though, and it stands to reason that I might have some insider information.

Miguel and I have been swinging since about a month into our relationship.  This doesn’t mean that I would have tried this with anyone else.  There was a style that he used to get me used to the idea and it began with something he likes to call “Kink Development”.  He brought it up right away, about 2 weeks into the relationship.  Of course, we started out as most happy couples do….with lots of sex.  Sex everyday, every time we saw each other.  He would talk about how much he would love to tie me up during foreplay and during the act itself.  He made sure that the idea turned me on, and it did.  We just talked about it, thou.  He asked if I had ever had a threesome, and I had.  He asked if I had enjoyed it, and I did.

This is the thing thou, every one of my ex-lovers had brought it up.  What you think that you are the only guy that is into it? You’re not!  They have all at one point or another wanted to see me with a girl, or share me with a guy.  At least they all brought it up at some point.  (maybe I just seem like that kinda girl…..who cares!)  So the idea was not new to me, just the way he worked his kink development.

One day he texted me and said something about all the fun we were going to have in our relationship, “with soft and full swap, handcuffs and blindfolds”.  I was intrigued.
Soft and full swap, What is that?
He explained that a soft swap was having sex with someone else in the room.  Now mind you this whole time he was very attentive to me.  Miguel pays more attention to what pleases me then I think any other guy was capable of.  He made me feel really beautiful.  He always told me how sexy I was and that he would love to watch me with another guy. (no surprise really!)  But he really meant it.  He did not act crazy jealous, he really wanted me to be pleasured.  I knew I could trust him, too.  He placed much emphasis on the fact that cheating in a swinger relationship is ridiculous.  Unless the relationship is totally miserable, the cheating factor goes away.  Why fuck around when I can fuck someone else with him in the room??  There has to be trust first.  Miguel never left my side at a club to mingle with others.  He never pursued a couple I told him I was not into as well.  We talked about same room sex only and that we would never “take one for the team”.  We agreed to always use condoms.  We also agreed that the minute we are not having fun anymore, we won’t do this.  This is something to enhance our relationship, (no sport fucking!)

We started with just voyeurism.  Then we agreed on a couple and we had our first soft swap.  I have to admit that I have been insecure at times in between.  I have cornered Miguel and asked him if he would still want me if I said I never wanted to swing again.  He replies very sincerely that he would still want me, that he will always want me.

Something about that, that he is so damned attentive.  He is still always making sure that I had fun, that it was good for me.  I know a lot of guys think they do that.  Really?  Have you watched her pleasure herself and taken mental notes on how to do it better yourself?  Do you tell her she is so sexy every single day, do you make her feel like the sexiest bitch on the planet?  Are you only open to the idea of a girl/girl situation?  She is with a guy for a reason, she probably loves the cock and may even prefer it.  Be open to the idea of a single guy or another couple, so she can really get off too.  I know I am coming to realize I am more of a boobs lesbian than a bi-girl.  It all depends on the girl, really.

If you have cheated in the past (in this relationship), or are trying to get her to let you fuck her friends this is probably not for you.  I have close girlfriends that know about my lifestyle but I do not play with them, for me it would be too weird.  If you worked on pleasing her more, she would want more sex.  If you say you are open to a man pleasing your wife,  really be into it.  You will get better sex, I promise you.  It will be “thank you” sex, that blows your fucking mind!  She would want to make to you feel as good as you make her feel.

3 comments

  1. Venus says:

    Interesting. I’m not a swinger, but not opposed to it either. The lifestyle actually intrigues me and I enjoy reading people’s stories and experiences. :)

  2. storm says:

    ok,i gotta ask, what is a boobs lesbian?
    yay boobs, nay pussy? ;)

    • BlueKaren says:

      A boobs lesbian would be a girl who likes to kiss girls and feel their boobs, but is not a fan of eating/playing with pussy. For me it really depends on the girl. I am not the kind of girl that enjoys eating pussy….I would much rather have a big cock any day!

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