How It All Started

One of our favorite questions is “Whose idea was this?” We always ask new couples that we meet and it is almost always the guy who brought it up. Wanting to spice things up, or he was feeling like a stallion stud and wanted to share his hot tamale with a lucky friend, or they had a female friend and she got in the mix one night. Of course in my relationship, it was Miguel’s idea.
I think it is always interesting to hear the story, so I am gonna tell you mine.

We used to go out to bars to play pool and one night Miguel said he was taking me somewhere special. I got dressed in my sexy black dress and we headed out. We had talked about it for a few weeks and I had shared my experiences….seems like I had something extracurricular in all of my past “monogamous” relationships. With the guys consent of course, or we had talked about inviting someone in our bed….damn that was a reoccurring theme in all my past relationships, how much different could it really be to have a swinger title?
So we headed out to a swinger club. I gotta be honest, I was scared. What kind of people do this? Ewww, is it gonna be a bunch of ugly people who hate their mates. Or is it gonna be a bunch of porn stars that I can’t even compete with? We met both that night at the club for the first time. Mostly thou it was people like us…voyeurs and exhibitionists, people who like to get sexy and fuck…
We had a few drinks, we watched other people. I gave Miguel head in a room full of people, most didn’t seem to notice. We picked a room we liked, it ended up not having any doors, and we had sex.
We did our first show that night. Nobody joined in but they got real close and watched, some cheered us on, it was pretty damned hot! We could get loud and no babies would wake up. I loved being watched, I loved getting to watch others.
It was so hot we we went back the following week.
Then, the club closed. Some stupid zoning law, and it was just as well it was pretty far to drive. So we got on some websites and made some new friends. Our appetites were wet for it, the thrill of sharing our bedroom with strangers, and new friends. We are not gonna give this up anytime soon. Luckily we found out how much fun we could have before we got too old. I am glad we tried something new, that we had enough trust. I have not regretted any encounter. I learned so much about Miguel and myself, and our relationship.

So that is how it all began. We have no problems meeting people now. We both know enough about our partner to know if the person(or couple) is a possible match. Each encounter is different, we keep adding new things to the list of things we are gonna try. It is really fabulous! We keep our simple rules and no one ever takes one for the team, lol!
So that’s it for our swinger lifestyle, the making of history. I would love to hear your story.




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